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Are you the best parent you can be?

post #1 of 8
1/11/10 at 10:47am
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I'm just wondering who out there feels like they are being the "best" parent they can be ...
I find myself over and over again regretting the way I handle something or feeling like I should be doing something different and I'm wondering how normal it is.
I wish I had been more of a disciplinarian with Haley and Zach when they were younger, I wish I didn't get bent out of shape and want to throw attacks back when Haley mouths off, I wish I had the motivation to read to Brenna every night or play tea party more often during the day.
There are days that I know that I am just one person and no one really has it all under control and there are other days when I feel inadequate as a parent.
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post #2 of 8
1/11/10 at 11:17am

Re: Are you the best parent you can be?

I think we all feel that way, Elaine. I know I feel like I am always yelling and my kids are brats. I have other people tell me that they are not, but I get a lot of smart mouthing and refusing to do stuff at my house.
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post #3 of 8
1/11/10 at 1:26pm

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I don't know a single parent who feels like they are doing their best all the time Elaine. I think we all feel that way, there simply is not enough time to do everything exactly a set way and we aren't perfect. I just remind myself that i am doing the very best I can (even when I'm frazzled and yelling I'm doing the best I can at that moment). The girls are suffering no permanent damage, and I apologize to them if I decide I was out of line. Hugs you are doing the best you can Elaine....
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post #4 of 8
1/11/10 at 10:51pm

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I feel that way most days, but especially when I lose my temper with them (particularly Ally these days. No one can "do it all", sweetie. All you can do is your best, admit when you make a mistake and go from there. And we ALL make mistakes.

Did it ever occur to anyone that the most important job in the world (raising kids) is probably the only one where you get NO type of training or have to at least take a class for?
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post #5 of 8
2/4/10 at 3:35pm

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Don't feel like it at all!!
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post #6 of 8
2/4/10 at 10:15pm

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It seems all i ever do it lecture and scold logan now a days.... maybe someday i will learn to just have fun with him.......
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post #7 of 8
3/14/10 at 8:50pm

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Don't be too hard on yourself. Hindsight is always 20/20 and monday-morning quarterbacks always could've done it better. The important thing is that you are aware of behaviours or actions you'd like to respond to differently. The fact that you worry about not being a good enough parent tells me you are probably a very good parent. Bad, or oblivious, parents don't even think about the job of raising kids. In my opinion, parenting is sometimes like dieting. Sometimes you just fall of that wagon and have some cheesecake. Sometimes you are just too tired for bedtime stories. The goal is happy healthy children and that wont be hindered because they didn't have bedtime stories every single night or have tea partys only once in a while.
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post #8 of 8
3/18/10 at 8:23pm

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If you make a daily effort to do the best you can do in parenting situations you are being a good parent. All you can do is try your best. If its front of mind already you are probably doing a great job. I think its the people who never consider how they are doing as a parent who may struggle.
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