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Does your stuff get "borrowed" or disappear?

post #1 of 6
2/13/10 at 10:28am
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There is nothing I hate more than my stuff disappearing. I don't have a lot of money and I don't often spend a lot of money on myself. There are a few things though that when I'm capable, I'll splurge for. My make-up ... gotta have good make-up ... razor blades, and once in a while a clothing item or pair of shoes.
It doesn't matter what I buy though, it disappears ... or gets "borrowed". There have been a few times actually that I bought myself a new pair of shoes and before I even get a chance to wear them, Haley (my 13 yr old) has stomped through the mud on her way home from school in them. *sigh*
This morning I was getting ready for work and couldn't find a single piece of my make-up ... Haley of course, is gone to her Dad's for the weekend. And it's not that I don't buy Haley her own items ... she just doesn't take care of them or wears through them in such a short amount of time that she ends up without. She can go through a stick of eyeliner in less than a month and she thinks that razor blades need changed with every shower.
Does anyone else share this issue?
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post #2 of 6
2/13/10 at 2:11pm

Re: Does your stuff get "borrowed" or disappear?

No, because my kids are too little to care about this stuff. While she is gone, I'm sure you're thinking of a suitable punishment. In the meantime, can you buy a tool box which you can lock to put your razors and make up? I hate to say to lock your stuff up, but it seems like the only way to keep her out of it. Maybe keep you eye out at work for locking garment bags, so you can lock up your nice clothes and shoes, too. I would be omega, super dupper, ginormous angry if my dds did that to me.
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post #3 of 6
2/13/10 at 2:12pm

Re: Does your stuff get "borrowed" or disappear?

PS I don't even know how you go through a stick of eyeliner in a week. I have had mine for a couple of years.

PSS
There are plenty of people I don't like in the world, but few I would call an enemy. I had a roommate who stole my stuff once. Like you, I had one thing I really thought stood out about myself and spent loads of money on - my hair. I have always been willing to spend extra money on my hair. In the Air Force, I had a roommate who stole my hair dryer, curling irons and other hair care stuff. I couldn't find my stuff for months. Then when I just hated her to the point I was going to strangle her, she moved out and as she was moving, she left her locked drawers open where I found all my stuff. I was furious and confronted her about it and all she said was she "borrowed" it. I took my stuff back and I ended up moving out and into a room with her best friend.

Well, turns out, she did the same thing to the "best" friend who soon hated her too. So although, there are few people I would call an enemy, this little thief is one. I have had tons of roommates and she is the only one who has earned my lifelong ire. If Haley does this to other girls, they are really going to hate her guts.
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post #4 of 6
2/13/10 at 6:53pm

Re: Does your stuff get "borrowed" or disappear?

I would start making a list of these things that she takes and doesn't return or wears without permission. Compile the list and show her, I think having it down on paper will at least show her the long list of things that she's doing and that if you were to do to her she wouldn't like. The bottom line it's respect, if she respects you and your things then she get the same in return. My mom and I had one closet of things we would share, that closet was designated for those items and they had to be returned there once cleaned. First come first serve on the shared items. Most of the time she left them for me but sometimes I remember seeing her in those items.
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post #5 of 6
2/14/10 at 11:56am

Re: Does your stuff get "borrowed" or disappear?

we are just starting this in our house. Tessa has started borrowing my tops... and she then will say she didn't know it was mine. Sigh.... She doesn't wear makeup or shave her legs yet so that part isn't an issue
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post #6 of 6
2/16/10 at 12:37pm

Re: Does your stuff get "borrowed" or disappear?

Ally constantly "borrows' whatever she sees lying around that she thinks she would like to have. Mine, Rick's, Bill's, Drew's - doesn't matter. She's too young to borrow clothes and she no longer messes with my make up (she has her own "play make up" and got her butt grounded the last time she played with my good stuff). She just doesn't seem to have any boundaries when it come to uses other people's things without permission. Granted, none of us should be leaving things lying about, but she HAS to learn that just because it is there doesn't mean she can use it. My rule is "If it doesn't belong to you, don't touch it!" We're getting there, but I can already tell it's going to be a long haul with her!
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