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What would you do if your tween or teen got pregnant or someone else pregnant?

post #1 of 7
5/10/10 at 12:03am
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What CAN you even do?
Someone close to me is dealing with this and my thoughts are that you just give them love, support when possible, choices and whatever wisdom you can offer up.
What would you do if your tween/teenager got pregnant or a girl pregnant?
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post #2 of 7
5/10/10 at 6:06am

Re: What would you do if your tween or teen got pregnant or someone else pregnant?

I would be shocked, because I intend to put my girls on birth control at a young age. I imagine no matter how hard you try, it's bound to happen to someone your kids know. I guess I would try t0 be as supportive as possible to the girl and her family.
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post #3 of 7
5/10/10 at 9:18am

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I guess I would prepare my house for an infant. I definitely don't WANT to be raising my grandchild but until my children graduate High School they are my responsibilty and I would still be the primary support for them and their dependents. I would NOT however, be the responsible party for the infant during times that my child is not in school. My daughter would have to learn to be a mother because after graduation I would help her get established in her own home with the assistance she needs and after that, she's on her own as far as finacial responsibility goes. I wouldn't put guilt on my child but I'd make sure they know that it's tough enough for me to support the people I brought into the world, and that I can't pay for her choices.
The other thing that I think would be important to do right away would be to establish a relationship with the other parent and grandparents.

Like Lenora though, I plan to put my daughter on birth control as soon as I feel there is a need and hope to never have to go through this with her.
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post #4 of 7
5/10/10 at 9:57am

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be as supportive as possible. I think that my initial response to the news that any of my girls were pregnant would be to ask them to give me some time to think and calm down because I know I would be upset.
Once that was done I think I would just talk to them about what they wanted to do... It would be her call whether she kept the baby or gave it up for adoption. I will honestly say I would steer her away from abortion, but support her if that was her decision as well. My concern there would be that I know four people who all had teenage abortions and all of them regret it now.
If she chooses to give it up, I would help her find a family that she liked to take the baby. If she chooses to keep it like Elaine I guess I would get ready for a baby in the house. I would do everything I could to help her finish school, but it would be her baby not mine and when she wasn't at school I would expect her to care for the baby.
The main thing would be to be as loving and supportive as possible because it wouldn't be easy for anyone involved.
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post #5 of 7
5/11/10 at 10:47am

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i agree with Elaine and Heather. i would encourage adoption as much as possible as i am a living example of how wonderful a gift adoption is. however if they wanted to keep the baby i would support them as much as possible. they would be parents whenever they weren't in school. i would also make a point that when they are not at school their job is a full time parent! i watched way too many teen moms have their parents raise their kids while they went out and partied and lived a 'normal' teen life. I could not tollerate that i don't think.
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post #6 of 7
5/11/10 at 7:09pm

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Honestly, I don't know. I could speculate, but really, who can say until they are in that position? I think I would have to have time to calm down and think about it, like Heather said. I can't see that I would ever encourage or support an abortion, but then again, I can't say never because I have not had to face this with a child of mine, and I I never do.
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post #7 of 7
5/13/10 at 11:43pm

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I don't even want to think about it! Drew already has a condom stash because I want him to be prepared - just in case. All you can do is love your kids and be there for them.
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