on my Sister In Law at some point while we live here in MO.
I almost did over the fourth of July to the point where I made an excuse and brought my girls home on the fourth instead of spending the night at the farm. I was having too much trouble keeping my mouth shut so I decided to retreat before I cause a family feud.
ok some back story here... I am referring to Ashley, Jim's younger brother's wife. David is also to blame in this situation but she is the one who drives me insane. They have been married now for I think 4 years (not sure exactly of the date we weren't at the wedding due to Army issues).
They each have children from previous relationships (a 16 year old who doesn't live with them full time and a 5 year old). The now have two children together a two year old and a 4 month old.
They are really some of the most irresponsible parents I have ever met. Their children have no rules, no bedtime and no boundaries. Mom and Dad say one thing, but they have no follow through. They can't understand why the kids don't behave when the want them too, but it's because they are so inconsistent the kids don't know which way is up (and of course the 16 year old loves being with them because there are no rules....) I bite my tongue all the time around them, and for awhile I kept saying well she's young she just needs time to grow up etc... Well that is old now, she isn't that bleeping young!
Here is the breakdown of why I left on the 4th of July instead of saying. They came in from KC on Friday some time, and then proceeded to go out with their 16 year old and one of her friends to someone else's house and leave the three younger kids at the farm with Oma (Jim's Mom). They apparently didn't come home until around 6 in the morning and the 16 year old had to drive because they were both too drunk (which I think my MIL almost killed them for). They then went straight to bed....
when we got there (almost three oclock because Jim had class) they were still in bed. David got up as soon as Nikki (the 16 year old) told them we were there. Not Ashley... she couldn't get out of bed. David finally got her to get up about an hour later, she stayed up long enough to make a bottle for the baby, and then passed the baby off to the 16 year old and said here you feed him I can't and went back to bed. She did finally get up around 630 or 7 pm. We had all already eaten *which she was pissy with David that he ate without her. Then she went outside and smoked her cigarettes and hung out on the porch for the rest of the evening (the kids were all inside with us). When it came time to shoot off fireworks she suddenly decided she wanted to be responsible for her baby again and put him in the stroller and took him down by the cars to watch with the teenagers instead of keeping him on the porch with the rest of the kids. (the porch is raised above the ground a bit so not at the level the fireworks are at). The baby started screaming after the second rocket, but she didn't take the baby inside she laughed about it and kept him down there...
Then Nikki came and got the 2 year old and took her down there by them too. Okay, no big deal because their Mom is down there "supervising" them right. No, she got bored watching Jim and David shoot off the fireworks so she left her infant and her out of control (because she doesn't have rules) 2 year old with a 15 year old friend of her daughters and she and Nikki went to shoot stuff off too. Mom and I didn't even have time to react when we realized what she had done because we were corralling all the other small children. The thing that pissed me off the most.... a bottle rocket went out of control and barely missed the baby's stroller and she thought it was funny. Her baby almost got hit by a firework and that funny!!! WTF!
Every time they come up to the farm they go out and party on Friday or Saturday night, sleep all day the next day, visit for a few min on that evening and then fight before they leave. David will get up and try to care for the kids but his mood is always foul because she won't get up which is why they end up fighting. I'm so sick of dealing with them and I find it harder and harder to keep my mouth shut. This is Jim's brother and our nieces and nephews so I will continue to try and control myself but I'm so sick of her and having to deal with her. I wish she would GROW UP! Stop acting like a teenager and be a mom to her 4 kids.
Okay... enough venting for the moment. Can you tell I'm still pissed about the whole thing and I can't vent on FB cause she's on there.
I almost did over the fourth of July to the point where I made an excuse and brought my girls home on the fourth instead of spending the night at the farm. I was having too much trouble keeping my mouth shut so I decided to retreat before I cause a family feud.
ok some back story here... I am referring to Ashley, Jim's younger brother's wife. David is also to blame in this situation but she is the one who drives me insane. They have been married now for I think 4 years (not sure exactly of the date we weren't at the wedding due to Army issues).
They each have children from previous relationships (a 16 year old who doesn't live with them full time and a 5 year old). The now have two children together a two year old and a 4 month old.
They are really some of the most irresponsible parents I have ever met. Their children have no rules, no bedtime and no boundaries. Mom and Dad say one thing, but they have no follow through. They can't understand why the kids don't behave when the want them too, but it's because they are so inconsistent the kids don't know which way is up (and of course the 16 year old loves being with them because there are no rules....) I bite my tongue all the time around them, and for awhile I kept saying well she's young she just needs time to grow up etc... Well that is old now, she isn't that bleeping young!
Here is the breakdown of why I left on the 4th of July instead of saying. They came in from KC on Friday some time, and then proceeded to go out with their 16 year old and one of her friends to someone else's house and leave the three younger kids at the farm with Oma (Jim's Mom). They apparently didn't come home until around 6 in the morning and the 16 year old had to drive because they were both too drunk (which I think my MIL almost killed them for). They then went straight to bed....
when we got there (almost three oclock because Jim had class) they were still in bed. David got up as soon as Nikki (the 16 year old) told them we were there. Not Ashley... she couldn't get out of bed. David finally got her to get up about an hour later, she stayed up long enough to make a bottle for the baby, and then passed the baby off to the 16 year old and said here you feed him I can't and went back to bed. She did finally get up around 630 or 7 pm. We had all already eaten *which she was pissy with David that he ate without her. Then she went outside and smoked her cigarettes and hung out on the porch for the rest of the evening (the kids were all inside with us). When it came time to shoot off fireworks she suddenly decided she wanted to be responsible for her baby again and put him in the stroller and took him down by the cars to watch with the teenagers instead of keeping him on the porch with the rest of the kids. (the porch is raised above the ground a bit so not at the level the fireworks are at). The baby started screaming after the second rocket, but she didn't take the baby inside she laughed about it and kept him down there...
Then Nikki came and got the 2 year old and took her down there by them too. Okay, no big deal because their Mom is down there "supervising" them right. No, she got bored watching Jim and David shoot off the fireworks so she left her infant and her out of control (because she doesn't have rules) 2 year old with a 15 year old friend of her daughters and she and Nikki went to shoot stuff off too. Mom and I didn't even have time to react when we realized what she had done because we were corralling all the other small children. The thing that pissed me off the most.... a bottle rocket went out of control and barely missed the baby's stroller and she thought it was funny. Her baby almost got hit by a firework and that funny!!! WTF!
Every time they come up to the farm they go out and party on Friday or Saturday night, sleep all day the next day, visit for a few min on that evening and then fight before they leave. David will get up and try to care for the kids but his mood is always foul because she won't get up which is why they end up fighting. I'm so sick of dealing with them and I find it harder and harder to keep my mouth shut. This is Jim's brother and our nieces and nephews so I will continue to try and control myself but I'm so sick of her and having to deal with her. I wish she would GROW UP! Stop acting like a teenager and be a mom to her 4 kids.
Okay... enough venting for the moment. Can you tell I'm still pissed about the whole thing and I can't vent on FB cause she's on there.
Sounds like her main use for your bil is a free ride and babysitter, so she can go party like a teenager and apparently with teenagers. If she keeps this up, someone is going to get hurt or killed and it's going to be her responsibility, because she is the grown up. When she's in jail, then maybe she'll get the point. sorry, for being so blunt, i have barely slept since I got the news my dad died. I think I could hate this woman with very little effort. Good luck keeping your mouth shut.
That poor kid. What a 
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