Well if you remember my mom had an aneurysm 4 years before I was born. Lost her short term memory. The mother I have now is the only mother I have known. My father divorced her when I was 18 for his bimbo I mean SM. She got the house and he got his pension. My brother is in the Navy and lives in CA so he is somewhat no help.
Back in Nov my mom was robbed 2 times in a month and finally after having her set up 3 previous times to move up here I had her come over sign the papers and take her keys so she couldn't go back. I set up 2 men and a truck to come move her and when I went over to assess what she had to move I couldn't open the door from all the hoarding going on. I cancelled the movers. My MIL (she can be good sometimes) rented a truck and her and I went and took out all the furniture out of the house and anything she "needed" to live. Kept it over night in the Uhaul and then the next day washed it all down... There were dead roaches stuck to the tape behind the wall pictures and dust an inch thick. Not to mention any other disgusting things like animal feces.
This was a heart ache for me physically and mentally and being WI and the winter. We left it till spring and here she didn't pay her property taxes totally. Here money paid there money paid. The city was foreclosing on her property. She owned her house out right but this was happening.
We called We Buy Ugly Homes and the guy came out and gave us an offer of $10,000 the way it is. He would pay back property and water bills and we would get the difference. she got $4,400 for her home she lived in 39 years. The hour before signing the guy wanted to do one more walk through to make sure it wasn't broke into or hot water heater missing or water softner missing and her we get out of the car and the little kids in the neighborhood told us that someone broke out the back window and was in her home. Okay freaking out here. the guy called the cops and the go in guns drawn "This is the Police." no one was in there. he still took the house.
Up to date I have a rule with my kids (same rule I had growing up) When I am not home no one comes in the house you dont answer the door, and dont answer the phone unless it is me or daddy. My mom came over and Britt told her we weren't home she would have to come back later and she blew up at my daughter telling her I am the grandmother you let me in. Britt stood her ground, and I called her when I got home and we were screaming at each other... She thought I was pulling something over on her and trying to keep her out and that if MIL came over Britt would let her in. She told her brother and sister the same so I have aunts and uncles calling me asking me why I was denying my mother to see her grandchildren.
She called her therapist and made us go to a session together to work on our unresolved issues.
I made the therapist see my point and we are now correcting the way she is acting. OMG I am sure there is more...
Back in Nov my mom was robbed 2 times in a month and finally after having her set up 3 previous times to move up here I had her come over sign the papers and take her keys so she couldn't go back. I set up 2 men and a truck to come move her and when I went over to assess what she had to move I couldn't open the door from all the hoarding going on. I cancelled the movers. My MIL (she can be good sometimes) rented a truck and her and I went and took out all the furniture out of the house and anything she "needed" to live. Kept it over night in the Uhaul and then the next day washed it all down... There were dead roaches stuck to the tape behind the wall pictures and dust an inch thick. Not to mention any other disgusting things like animal feces.
This was a heart ache for me physically and mentally and being WI and the winter. We left it till spring and here she didn't pay her property taxes totally. Here money paid there money paid. The city was foreclosing on her property. She owned her house out right but this was happening.
We called We Buy Ugly Homes and the guy came out and gave us an offer of $10,000 the way it is. He would pay back property and water bills and we would get the difference. she got $4,400 for her home she lived in 39 years. The hour before signing the guy wanted to do one more walk through to make sure it wasn't broke into or hot water heater missing or water softner missing and her we get out of the car and the little kids in the neighborhood told us that someone broke out the back window and was in her home. Okay freaking out here. the guy called the cops and the go in guns drawn "This is the Police." no one was in there. he still took the house.
Up to date I have a rule with my kids (same rule I had growing up) When I am not home no one comes in the house you dont answer the door, and dont answer the phone unless it is me or daddy. My mom came over and Britt told her we weren't home she would have to come back later and she blew up at my daughter telling her I am the grandmother you let me in. Britt stood her ground, and I called her when I got home and we were screaming at each other... She thought I was pulling something over on her and trying to keep her out and that if MIL came over Britt would let her in. She told her brother and sister the same so I have aunts and uncles calling me asking me why I was denying my mother to see her grandchildren.
She called her therapist and made us go to a session together to work on our unresolved issues.
I made the therapist see my point and we are now correcting the way she is acting. OMG I am sure there is more...
That sounds like a truly trying situation.
