At my wits end!

I need some advice quick before I lose it with Ryan. He is 4 1/2 and driving me nuts with his attitude and temper tantrums. They happen at least 1x every night, and multiple times on the weekends and I just don't know what to do with him. Brandon and Justin never acted like this, never tested us the way Ryan is. Nothing works with him, time outs, sit in bedroom, take things away, ignore him, spank him, etc. When he gets in his mode, he will jump on me, throw things, knock stuff off tables, stomp his feet, scream. I am at the point now where I love him to death because he is my son, but as a person, I don't like him so much. My MIL, SIL and neice are in town, and got to witness this first hand last night. He got mad because he wanted to listen to Justins MP3 player, but it was dead and Brandons was in the van. Brandon didn't want to go get it for him, so he lost it. I went and sat on the couch and he comes over screaming, pulling at me, jumping on me, as I calmly kept putting him back on his butt on the floor as MIL just watched and so it went on for about 1/2 an hour. I ended up calling John and finally admitting to him and myself that I don't like my child right now. What a terrible feeling to have. I ended up crying, my SIL asking if I was all right. MIL disappeared at some point during it, probably so she didn't have to show her disappointment in me as a mother (I am a bad wife also because John and I don't talk nice to each other). I talked with Ryan afterward and told him that right now I am not liking him and I really don't want to be around him. I don't know what to do for us to not go through this. We both cried, but I doubt it will make a difference. What do I do?? Is this normal 3rd child behavior? I feel like he gets more attention than any of the boys because I am leery of going through another tantrum.

Re: At my wits end!

How old was Aaron when you had that diagnosed? When we had the meeting with the Ped for Brandon, I asked what age do they normally diagnose that, because I told him how Ryan would act. He said very rare that it would be at his age. We have an appt on Aug 5 for his well-check so I plan on asking what is going on.

Re: At my wits end!

We are going for his wellcheck on August 5, so I am going to ask about it. I would much rather know there is a medical reason for it then just that he is being a difficult child. At least then I know there are things I can do to help him! THANKS!!