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post #1 of 4
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Well as a bio mom this has been the toughest area of my life. I must say though the last year has been uneventful as far as dealing with ex( well ex boyfriend). I don't talk to step mom because I never get the chance. I have grown up alot the last few years, I'm 22 and my daughter is almost 8. Yep, young. I have realised that her step mom and even her family love my daughter. They never make her feel like an outsider. I know if they did my daughter would tell me. So, I'm lucky that all these people love my daughter! I do have some probs with step but overall she is good to her. I don't see why more moms can't understand this. I know it might seem simple but it took me almost 3 years to understand it. A child cannot have to much love. When I did make this discovery all negative feelings left me. I was not jealous any longer. I know I'm a good mom and I don't cause her any grief about who said what and all that. I could go on and on but let me say what someday your bio mom will say hopefully, Thank you for accepting my child.
post #2 of 4

I wish my SS had a MOM like you...

It's been 5 years and she still won't even try to get along.

I'm 22 years old also! I hope that my SS mom can feel like you one day!! I would love to be her friend.

It can't be easy for Bio mom's, I know I would have some issues with it...if it were me.
post #3 of 4
I am both Bio Mom and a step mom. I can see where it is hard for both sides. The child/children need to know that the grown ups can act like adults and be sivilized. With me being the Bio-Mom, I do not have any hate towards the step, it is just that I do not know her as well as I need to. She is very honest and up front and loves my son to pieces and would never let anything happen to him. The problems that I have are not necessarily with her but the butt head dad.
Being the step-mom, I try to be respectful to the bio mom, but when this lady is on the phone to my DH and discussing things and she does not want to do her share of what she needs to it kinda gets to me. My DH and I brought in $3300 in taxes this year and all we got was a little over $300 back. Well Child Support took it all. On my SS we paid off all the government money that bio mom took years ago and the rest went to a baby we have never seen. That Bio Mom is a whole new story. SS mother makes darn good money and never sends us a dime to help with anything. All she wants to do is party and but video games. What a bum.
Thanks for letting me vent!
post #4 of 4
It is tough for us step moms Sunny. I love my SD to pieces as you put it, too, and all I get is the jealousy still after 7 years. I am 37 years old and she is 36 1/2.
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