Dumbo - I just have to say again that you seem like the coolest biomom. Sure wish you were my SD's mom. Of course if you were, I wouldn't have anything to gripe about on this board!
Unfortunately, we can't afford to fly my SD out here for any of the holidays right now. The only way we get to see her is if we pay the total cost of the trip, and it's stretching it to do it once per year. Besides, biomom won't let her fly alone, which means we'd have to pop for 3 round-trip tickets. She also won't let her fly out here with my MIL which solve that problem, but I'm not even going to go there right now. LOL