Interrupted sleeping and napping

Hey everybody. So my pediatrician doesn't really have any advise for us on this topic and I've looked through a lot of threads and can't seem to find any good suggestions to help my little one sleep well for a good amount of time. As a matter of fact he's in his room right at this moment fussing because he woke up from his afternoon nap and won't go back to sleep. This is our issue. He usually goes to bed around 7:30-8 and sleeps till about 11. That's the witching hour as my gf calls it. After that he gets up once every 1-2 hours and will not put himself back to sleep. The same thing with his nap time. Once he wakes up it's ridiculously hard to get him back to sleep. He'll sit there and get himself so worked up that it's pointless to try and get him back down. Not only does he scream up in your face if you don't pick him up...but he'll start banging his head against his crib rail (thank you whoever invented jelly crib guards). My sons temper is RIDICULOUS. Once he wakes up and figures out he's been put down for a nap he goes ballistic. It's really hard on me because I'm one of those fathers that thinks way too much into everything and wonders if there's something wrong with my son because he isn't sleeping right or eating right. I was just wondering if any of you fine parents out there had some advise for me or perhaps a similar sitation that I could relate to that might give me some insight. 

My son Ian is 13 months. He despises cereal,baby food and milk. We're lucky if we can get him to drink the recommended 12 oz. a day of lactaid (he's lactose intolerant). He only wants to eat what we're eating and nothing more. A friend of mine has a child who's now 18 months and he'll still eat 3rd stage and graduates food. Is it odd that my sons eating the same stuff we're eating? This is the night time routine which has stayed consistent for well over 6-8 months. Dinner at 530-playtime til 630-shower with daddy (hope that's not weird)-645-out of the shower and off to brush the teeth-700-730 winding down in his room-730-745 bottle with cereal and off to sleep. We had it down so he would get himself to sleep but I think he kind of switched it up on us as he now falls asleep before he's even done with his bottle. It's crazy just how much routine this boy needs to have his day go by smoothly with no melt downs. And when i say melt downs i mean head banging against the floor slapping anyone or any animal that's within arms length temper tantrums. It's nothing short of insane. My gf can't really gauge his behavior by her first born because of the fact that her first was a mellow,laid back little girl who really didn't do much except for eat,sleep,watch TV and eat some more lol. I just don't know what to think and some times I think I'm worrying myself too much.

yeah I always bring up his temper just to get some feedback. A lot of my old posts were deleted so I figured I'd throw it out there again. I've brought it up to my pediatrician and she said that she's seen worse. I think the thing about his temper that bothered me most was when another pediatrician was scheduled to see him and she was taken back by his temper. In his defense he doesn't like her and she's kind of creepy. Usually if he doesn't see his normal pediatrician (oddly enough she's a NP and not yet a doc) he gets ornery. The one time visit with this other doc set me off though. She's one of those homeopathic doctors that would rather just let a kid go through his issues without anything to relax him. I don't like throwing ibuprofrin my kids way at all but if he's in pain and i can clearly see that his gums are swollen from teething I'd rather him sleep better and get a bit of relief rather than be up all night slapping the crap out of anyone that comes near him. I think I got off topic somewhere a long this post. Bottom line is he's reaching all his milestones just fine and is even advanced in some ways. So I can't complain. I just wish we could go one day with out a complete melt down or a full night without him waking up snapping OUT! 

I've seen worse has actually given me more comfort than "he's got the temperament of a 3 year old and he's only 1". I just don't like feeling like I'm a crappy dad because my son just might have inherited some of my personality traits.