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post #1 of 22
9/23/02 at 11:26am
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Is a two year old boy too old to see his mommy in her underwear/naked? I am a SAHM and sometimes I have to get dressed and go to the bathroom in front of my son. I am starting to feel weird about it....is it? At what age is it not proper?

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Sandra mommy to 2year old Drew
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post #2 of 22
9/23/02 at 11:48am
It depends on how you feel. Brandon is 6.5 and I still walk in undies and half nude all the time. I think Momma did occasionally until I was about 17 (made the boys 14, 11, & 7).

If you are uncomfortable than your son will pick it up to.

I have problems using the bathroom with anyone around, tho. Even DH Matt. I told the pony to go away because she could see me in Momma's outhouse from her pen 15 feet away. That's just one thing I can't share.
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post #3 of 22
9/23/02 at 12:23pm
If you feel uncomfortable, stop. My son just turned two and he sees me and his daddy taking showers, on the potty, getting dressed, etc. all the time. It hasn't started bothering either of us but once it does, we'll stop. In my opinion, since you are feeling that way now, it is probably time to stop.
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post #4 of 22
9/23/02 at 12:27pm
Christian is 2 and some days he will be occupied with other things and I can run to the bathroom without him and other days if I have to go, I have to go with him in the bathroom. If it makes you nervous while he is in there with you or rather makes you feel weird give him something to occupy his few seconds with....maybe let him brush his teeth. I know that is what Christian does when he runs to the bathroom. He grabs his tooth brush and starts brushing away.

With Christian coming in with me, it also is making it easier to potty train though. He seems to know what he is supposed to do. He jumps on the toilet and he knows about toilet paper and flushing when he is done.
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post #5 of 22
9/23/02 at 2:31pm
If you are starting to feel uncomfortable then your child will pick up on it, so it may be time to stop.
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post #6 of 22
9/23/02 at 2:49pm
You just have to go with you instinct. I agree with everyone else - if you are getting uncomfortable, then it is probably time to stop. Drew is 8 and it has just been in the last year or so that he hasn't just walked into the bathroom on my - potty or shower. Ally is 20 months and ALWAYS goes into the bathroom with me.
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post #7 of 22
9/23/02 at 2:50pm
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Thanks for the advice. I guess I will just play it by ear. I was just wondering what others were like when it came to that stuff. I honestly feel better about running around half naked in front of my kids knowing I am not the only one. My parents were pretty modest and so....I guess I am too. But it is really difficult when you have a 2 year old running around constantly...ya know
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post #8 of 22
9/23/02 at 2:57pm
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post #9 of 22
9/23/02 at 3:08pm
It was my DH who became uncomfortable first with me letting the kids in the bathroom (mostly Marcus) when I was taking a shower... It never fails that when I am in the shower suddenly everyone needs to use the bathroom!!! Anyway, I came out of the bathroom in just my undies one day and Marcus looked at me and said, "Boobs!!!" and that was the day I figured it was time to learn some modesty! I think he was 6 or 7.
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post #10 of 22
9/24/02 at 10:17pm

BIRTHDAY SUIT

Why would you be ashamed to show the body that God gave you to your children. If it's in the privacy of your own home and just in the normal context of changing or showering, then what's the big deal?? Britney Spears is flaunting enough skin to be considered indecent and half the world is viewing it on TV.

The problem is we associate nudity with sex. The human body is a miracle and all the parts are functional, including mama's breasts - which may have nourished baby at one time. They are not a source of depravity that should be hidden from small eyes.

Be open and free with your children and hopefully they will reciprocate.

Deborah
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post #11 of 22
9/24/02 at 10:24pm
we don't worry to much about clothes when we are just at home with family. I started wearing a robe around the house bc Des pointed out that our eldest had started 'watching' me. We figured we didn't need to warp his maturing sexuality with mind pic's of his mother LOL. Besides after I knew he was 'peeking' I felt uncomfortable.

When we moved to OZ and DS stayed behind, and it was so incrediably hot here I quickly got used to being naked in the house again. The boys are 10.5 and still don't notice, until they do I am not going to be uncomfortable in my own home.

So I wouldn't worry about a two year old unless of course it makes you uncomfortable.
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post #12 of 22
9/26/02 at 3:03pm
Wow! You all are so open. There is no way that I would be naked in front of a 10 year old.
Daniel peeks through the curtain while I am showering to play peek-a-boo but I think he is still too young to know the difference. I think that once he does I will make sure the door is looked.
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post #13 of 22
9/26/02 at 3:04pm
My DH was squeamish about me taking showers with our DS, but as I grew up in a very open household, my answer was simply 'When he starts to notice a difference, then some modesty will be exercised. Until then, he doesn't care.' Don't want to warp the boy, after all...

I used to always let DS come into the bathroom with me, or at least leave the door open if he and I were home alone, until one day, about 2 months ago, he watched me sit down and commented, 'Mommy, you have a bigger bottom than I do.'. Stifling a laugh, I agreed with him. Then he looked me right in the eye and asked, 'Do you have a bigger pistol too?' Let me explain that -- pistol is what he calls his... er... equipment. I guess because you have to aim it. We have no clue who taught him that.

When I told him that Mommy didn't have a pistol, he looked very worried and asked 'Then how do you go potty??' and proceeded to try to climb into my lap (I'm sitting on the pot, mind you) and look. Blushing furiously, I suggested to him that it was a good time to play with Playdoh, which got his mind onto another subject and got him out of my lap!

So as a result, I'm a little more modest around him. As long as things are covered, he can see me partially dressed (i.e., bra and panties). But no more Full Monty for me!

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post #14 of 22
9/26/02 at 3:15pm
Well, my son just turned 2 and has been pointing to my for some time now and asking what they were. Once he could say boobs, he stopped asking and now he just points at them, laughs (big ego booster, huh? ) and says boobies. He thinks they're funny.

And he's always pointing at his wee-wee, calling it that, then pointing at his daddy and saying wee-wee? and after getting affirmation that daddy has one, points at me and says wee-wee? and I tell him no, that mommy doesn't have one.

He's still too young, in my opinion, to truly know the difference between boys and girls and is really too young to even know what they are used for besides going potty. I don't know when the time will come that I'll feel uncomfortable, but everyone has their own comfort zone and you just have to go with it.

At the moment, I just laugh at Alexander's toddler questions and statements about body parts because they're just too funny to do otherwise!!
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post #15 of 22
9/26/02 at 3:56pm
I think it is fine for your child to see you naked unless you or the child are uncomfortable about it. We hardly ever close the bathroom door and the kids always walk in on us They think nothing of it. I have noticed that my 11 year old is starting to get more self consious about it though and have started making sure that we give her her privacy. I have all girls though so It may be different with boys
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post #16 of 22
9/26/02 at 5:07pm

My son was 11 when I had a hysterecotmy and breast reduction, and I needed him to help me dress, change bandages and drain blood tubes.
I think it depends on how you react to him seeing you unclothed.
When he starts to feel uncomfortable about it then deal with it.
Because of my health my son still sees my rearend and sometimes the breasts, but I have explained to him when, where and what is proper to see.
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post #17 of 22
9/26/02 at 8:48pm
I have enjoyed reading this topic. I don't have children yet (21 weeks pregnant now), but it will be interesting for my husband and I since we have NO bathroom door on our master bathroom (only on the "toilet room")....it's an Arizona thing I guess (I am originally from Wisconsin and Minnesota and when I moved here I thought it was odd). My husband and I, now married 2 1/2 years, have just recently started not caring about being nude in the bathroom with each other getting ready in the morning....I'm not sure how it will be with a child....it's got me thinking now. Thanks all.
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post #18 of 22
9/26/02 at 9:39pm
My eldest son got very modest at about 11.5 when 'the changes' started taking place, I can honestly say I have not seen my son's rearend since not that I really want to see it mind you ,

I think everybody should have as much privacy as they need for their own personal comfort, and that the less modest among us have to accomodate the more easily embarrassed.

Altho I hasten to add that if anyone other than my husband or Sons saw me naked I would die of embarrassment
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post #19 of 22
9/27/02 at 1:06am
It's a matter of personal choice. The kids have seen me in the buff and still take the odd showers with me. My oldest (10.5) is going the pre-teen stage now with needing privacy from dh. I talk openly about her mental and physical changes. The middle (6) and the youngest (3) still takes showers baths with dh and I. We change in front of them. Going to the washroom at our house is always with an audience (good grief) because the 3yo is in the potty training stage right now. So if he sees it for himself then hopefully he'll get the notion. We hope!
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post #20 of 22
9/27/02 at 11:35am
my 2yr old daughter is still fixated on boobies and it is just impossible to keep her from the bathroom and shower when I am in there. In fact, she will scream and beat on the door if she hears the water and the door is locked. I still change clothes around my own mom, and vice versa so I don't think it's a big deal. My son is 12, however, and I haven't seen him naked in years. I allowed him to shower with me (I was a single mom at the time) until age four because I didn't trust him alone while I couldn't hear or see him. At age four I worried that if he told anyone that he showered with mom some paranoid idiot would report me to the state!
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post #21 of 22
9/29/02 at 9:40pm
I don't know what I would do with a son. I have 3 daughters, the least of which is 2, and they see me all the time. If they are inquisitive about my body parts, I try to explain to them with as limited an answer as I can give them.
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post #22 of 22
10/4/02 at 8:59pm
If you are uncomfortable will dressing and undressing in front of any of your children, stop. Your feelings will show and start to reflect on the child. My oldest is never allowed to see me. He is 10, of course. However, there have been accidential times when he has walked in on me changing or getting out of the shower, not realizing. (He is supposed to knock. Unfortunately, he forgets sometimes.)

My 19-month old sees me. However, he doesn't look, really. He is just in there. Some times, I can insure that he isn't going to pull everything out of the cabinets if he is with me. My 4-year-old daughter changes with me. She has asked antamony questions before, but nothing serious. Heck, my 10-year-old has asked worse!

Some times, to save time, I put the two smaller ones into the tub or shower with me. Most days, I would never get to bathe if I didn't.

I just think that when the kid asks too serious of questions about your body or you feel uncomfortable, it is time to dress elsewhere. I know that my youngest son will stop being in the same room with me in the next few years. Just because I will surely be ready to dress without any company!
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