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Any acknowledgement from your steps for Mom's Day?

post #1 of 10
5/14/01 at 2:12pm
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I'm truly disappointed, although I don't know why. My stepdaughter made no attempt to acknowledge me for Mother's Day. No card. No nothing. My husband even called her yesterday and she didn't ask to speak to me nor did she ask him to pass along the message.

Oh well. Like I said, I shouldn't be surprised -- it's not like she has any other Mother's Day either, but I guess I let my hormones get the best of me this time around.

Anyway - just wondered if any of you other stepmom's got a nice card or at least a Happy Mother's Day wish.
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post #2 of 10
5/14/01 at 2:19pm
I am sorry Dawn.

I actually got my husband's step mother a card for Mother's Day this year but if I would not have, she would never have gotten one because Den would NEVER get her one. He will do anything for his step-father but when it comes to his step-mother he could really care less.
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post #3 of 10
5/14/01 at 8:00pm
I have a step mom and I always make a point to call her on Mothers Day. Even though she is not my "mom", she is still a mom to two boys and my step-mom. I also do the same for my step dad on Fathers day.
I am sorry your step daughter didn't call you though.
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post #4 of 10
5/15/01 at 1:43am
Nothing.....not even a hello....but then again I was to busy being spoiled to care!! It does hurt my feelings when I think about it but oh well!!
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post #5 of 10
5/27/01 at 6:15pm

NO

But you have to remember, they have to go through their mothers to get one for us. Fat chance!

Just trust in their love.
I got a big hug as soon as I saw SD this weekend.

That's what matters.
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post #6 of 10
5/30/01 at 9:31pm
Sorry Postey I have to disagree, it's not up to the Bio to help with mothers day gifts, it is up to your DH/SO/BF whatever the case my be. Just like when fathers day arrives I will help my children with a gift for my DH their SF and it will be up to my Xs girlfriend to buy for him from the children. My children did give a gift to their fathers girlfriend for mothers day, but I sure didn't buy it, as my husband helped them buy me a gift. Please don't put all the blame the bio for this, it needs to be put most of all on the man who lives with you (their father) please tell him how this made you feel and maybe next time he will be more thoughtful of your feelings.
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post #7 of 10
5/30/01 at 9:37pm
Sorry Dumbo, but we live in Ohio and they live in Tennessee. Not possible. She does not live with us nor do we share custody. Don't see her much. So, if SD sends a mother's day, birthday or Christmas card or whatever to anyone in our family, including her father, her mom has to help her. And you know what? We never get anything, not even Dad, who is the best Dad in the whole world.
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post #8 of 10
5/30/01 at 10:03pm
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I have to side with Postey on this one, but maybe that's where I'm not seeing straight. If we actually saw my SD more than once per year, I would agree with you Dumbo. If the role were reversed, I would at least make the child call her dad/stepmom on special holidays.

Just like Postey -- my hubby doesn't even get Father's Day or birthday cards from his daughter. I just don't think that's right.

I had a friend who shared custody of her daughter with the father 50/50. She took her to the store for every occasion and helped her daughter pick out cards/small gifts. I guess I just assumed that was the way it should be done. Oh well!
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post #9 of 10
5/31/01 at 12:37am
My birth-mother is married to someone other than my father, so i guess that he would qualify as a stepdad right? I love him to pieces and i always send him a father's day card. They have them for stepparents, i think that it is only right. Even though my stepdad did not have any part in raising me, he always remembers me on my b-day and other holidays. I feel so bad for you stepmoms that don't get cards from your schildren. Maybe when they get older and the divorce isen't so raw they will appreciate you more.
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post #10 of 10
5/31/01 at 9:27am
I have confidence that SD appreciates and loves me. Her mother just has a strong hold on her and she is caught in the middle. In fact, I think she comes to me with some things that she doesn't go to her mother with. I know that I am doing the right things and that when she is grown she will see that, despite the way her mother has tried to tear her father and I down.
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