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post #1 of 6
10/12/02 at 9:08am
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Hi ladies, I know maybe you can help me. I wasn't sure if this should go here or in the pregnancy loss forum.

Anyway, most of you know about my daughter and what I went through in August. However, even though I miss her terribly, and want her back, whenever I'm not thinking of her, all I can think about is getting pregnant again.

I don't want to become obsessed, but it's like a tape recorder: Madeline
Pregnant
Madeline
Pregnant
hungry? no
Madeline
Pregnant
cook dinner? ok
Madeline
Pregnant


see? It's driving me crazy and I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this.
The sad thing is, I can't even try yet. I still have to wait another cycle. I'm gonna go ..
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post #2 of 6
10/12/02 at 9:47am
It's completly normal Amy
What you're going through, is a need to fill the hole that's there. Madeline was supposed to be brought home with you and you were expecting to have another child, planning for it, fantasizing about her and getting excited about her for months.
It's like when you crave for candy which you think is in your cupboard, so you go to get it and DH has eaten it. The crave doesn't just go. You don't just say, oh well, no problem. You get frustrated and and if the shops are open you go and get some. If they're not open, you crave until it is.
Once you get the candy you're fine. You know it, but the car won't start and you have to wait and it's driving you

You'll feel much better next cycle when you can try again
Alot of women who are TTC and are having trouble know what you are going through. When I was TTC I heard the same broken record in my head. It consumed me to the point that I was driving everyone around me

Hang in there, it won't be long
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post #3 of 6
10/12/02 at 1:03pm
Yes, I went through the same thing. Although, my first baby was unplanned and unexpected (I was told I could never get pregnant), it's loss was devistating. I thought about getting pregnant again obessively for months. I wasn't truely able to move on until I was able to get pregnant again a year later. I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time.
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post #4 of 6
10/12/02 at 1:05pm
I love the way that Genie put it. I have never been in your shoes so I can only imagine what it is like. My thoughts are with you, and I hope things are better for you once you are able to try again.
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post #5 of 6
10/13/02 at 3:55pm
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Genie, Thanks for putting it in perspective for me! That really helped.

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post #6 of 6
10/14/02 at 9:28am
Genie you put that so well. Amy
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