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Holding the baby?

post #1 of 9
7/9/01 at 8:05pm
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Do you have rules about people holding or touching your baby?

I hate letting people hold Italy! I have to make myself do it!
Like if we are with that person for a while and I am comfortable with them in that situation I will ask them if they want to hold her...
But I absolutely hate it when people just come over to me and grab her from my arms and then I have problems with people passing her around!
I have had people who dont support her head, pass her around to little kids and one of them was sitting on the edge of a bed.... talk about a heart attack... And when people leave the room with her... aaaaahhhhhhh... give me my baby...
and Luis wonders why i dont want to go to his familys house...
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post #2 of 9
7/9/01 at 9:48pm
I am like that sometimes with Christian. I feel if I wanted that person to hold him I would have said here do you want to hold him.

I don't like when little kids hold him. It drives me nuts. He gets heavy for me how can a little kid hold him. It does not bother me if they are sitting down on the couch though. It is when they get up and think they are walking to the next room with him.
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post #3 of 9
7/10/01 at 3:06am
I think for you Mom's you have a right to do what ever you want with your child, it is your child. I am sure you never thought of this before until you had a child. I think it is important that people around you support your descision.

My niece had a baby, my great niece, she made everyone was their hands before touching Emily, I walked into her room gave Kimmy a kiss and looked at Emily and said how pretty she was and then walked into the bathroom to scrub, she was so happy I did that and she said see Mom, Angie doesn't mind, my Sister in law could of smacked me, oh will that is why I am close to my nieces.

You girls do what you need to to protect and love your little one.
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post #4 of 9
7/10/01 at 9:53am
I was really freaked out at first when my son was born about other people touching him etc. Don't know how I will be about this one though.

I know this will sound really bad but...I still am a little freaky about strangers touching my son even though he is 2. When he was just a few days old we went to Wal-mart and this little boy (he was maybe 6 or 7) kept going up to him and touching him. I think I was probably pretty mean to him when I told him to not touch my baby! But, this little boy was filthy and all I could think of were all kinds of nasty diseases. It was a long time before I would ever put my son in the car seat thingys they have on the grocery carts..and I have been known to wiped them down with a baby wipe.

I still worry about other kids especially kids I do not know but it gets hard when you have a very active 2 year old.
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post #5 of 9
7/10/01 at 7:48pm

oh yeah.i totally agree Stephanie!

oh yeah.I've had people just grab Brit and my other children(when they were infants) outta my arms!They wouldn't support her back,give her to kids and everything!UGH!Well,I finally started saying stuff like "Could you support her head" or "Oops...watch out,she's not that strong yet" in a jokey yet nice...but serious manner.I understand though.By the way Hi, all.i'm still waiting for my puter to work out for me,im using a friend's now.
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post #6 of 9
7/11/01 at 12:28am
With Angela, I was more than happy to let people hold her. I wanted to show the whole world my baby! (remember, I had a miscarriage that was due 1 yr before) I was sooo proud of what I had helped to create that I was shoving her into every bodies' arms!

Brandon was my little boy. He was mine! Mine! MINE! You ain't having him!

Caitlyn, she was a booby baby until she was 8 months old. SHE decided who she would go to, or not. It was actually funny sometimes!

Stephanie, set your foot down if you want to. Who sits up with her when she is sick? Or can't sleep? or wants to play all night long? You do. If she were to catch a cold from someone, you suffer, not-say-your inlaws.
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post #7 of 9
7/11/01 at 4:32am
Knee Cole you tell her how it is girl. Go!!!
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post #8 of 9
7/11/01 at 10:37am
Stephanie I totally agree with you a 100% I would not just let anyone hold Celeste, I had and still have to make myself... I would NEVER let little children hold her....
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post #9 of 9
7/11/01 at 10:49am
Stephanie, it is your child and you have every right to set rules and boundaries for when and how others hold her.

I, too, have to make myself let anyone else hold Alexander and if he starts to fuss, I immediatly take him back. I also let his little cousins hold him - I "help" them by keeping one hand on them and one on Alexander and I make sure they are sitting back on the couch/chair so that they are stable.

I've been told that with each child it gets easier and that eventually you'll be handing them to anyone that will take them. We'll see!!
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