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post #1 of 9
5/24/03 at 1:34am
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I have been trying ttc since August of last year kind of starting to worry now, not just becouse it is taking so long but becouse of what has been going on lately with me emotions. Maybe I am just noticeing it more, i'm just not sure. My DH pointed out to me when I was trying to talk to him becouse out of no where he started talking obout maybe waiting a little bit longer to continue trying.(well at this point we are just doing the if it happens it happens type of approche) It all started the other day when he said that maybe I should get counseling about everything that happend with my son. I guess I may have freaked him out 'couse the other day I found out that a freind of mine is 3 mo preg of course with baby #3. And well to say the least I also spent the day crying. It probebly hasn't helped that hekeeps telling me that he wanted me to get rid of our daughters old baby stuff I just don't know??????
What do you think should I wait? And to make things confuse me even more AF is supposed to be here in a couple days.
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post #2 of 9
5/24/03 at 3:10am
Well, I'm not sure what to say but I would like to give you lots of

I am praying for you!
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post #3 of 9
5/25/03 at 11:40am
After I had lost my last baby (at 4 months), My doctor advised that I wait a year before trying to concieve. I waited longer than that because I needed to grieve for my baby, accept my loss and move forward in my life.

I know that it has been over a year for you since your loss and you said you have been trying since August of last year.

First and foremost, think about why you want to concieve. If it purely because you want to a fullfillment for your feelings of sadness over your loss, you have a lot of thinking to do.

Both you and your husband should want to TTC, if he isn't ready, then he may have some issues that need to been worked out before attempting to try again. You mentioned he said he wants to wait a little longer...maybe you should listen to his feelings about this.

If you are crying over someone else getting pregnant, that is understandable but your spouse knows you better than anyone except yourself and I think you need to explore your feelings about your loss of your baby before moving forward and conceiving again.

Mary,

No one is telling you to wait forever.
I was TTC for ten years before I got pregnant and lost my baby. I was 35 years when I finally had Michael (my premature baby) and I am taking things slow before I attempt to try again.

I am 38 years old and I still want another baby but only time will tell. I wish you all the best.
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post #4 of 9
5/27/03 at 5:45pm
I hope you do get some counseling. It is not bad to ask for help or to get it. You need to cope with what's wrong. I know it's hard, but maybe that's why you haven't conceived yet. YOu need to concentrate on getting better and then it will happen naturally.
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post #5 of 9
5/27/03 at 5:55pm
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post #6 of 9
5/27/03 at 6:10pm


I don't have any great advice but wanted you to know I am thinking of you!!

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post #7 of 9
5/27/03 at 6:32pm
Sandra always gives good advise. I'm sorry your in so much pain. It took us a year to concieve again after my miscarrige.
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post #8 of 9
6/6/03 at 4:16am
Thanks Grace
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post #9 of 9
6/6/03 at 11:47am
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