|Originally posted by MerriJo
She suffered from depression in her previous pregnancies and was already on medication when she became pregnant again. Not only was that a lapse in judgment on both her and her husband's part, her doctor should have warned her and her husband about how future pregnancies would affect her mental state. At the very least he should have encouraged them to put off any more pregnancies until he felt she was more mentally stable.
OK, First of all, I have suffered from depression since I was a teenager. And I am not talking normal teen anxiety. I am talking about the fact that I have been on half a dozen or more different Antidepressants since the age of 18. When I was pregnant with my first son, I was still in depression. I took my medication Every single day. The mood swings were there, the anxiety was there. The fear was there. After he was born, I had the "baby blues'. Then that turned into PPD. Not 3 1/2 months later I found out I was pregnant again. I cried for two weeks. My new baby was still just a baby. How could I do this? What was I doing to our family? to my new baby? to my husband? to our finances? to our marriage? ( we had only been married 10 months). Still in PPD, I went on with my pregnancy. That year was terrible for us. we moved in with my parents, George lost his job, he got a job that took him away from me for 85+ hours a week. So yes, my depression worstened. When My second son was born, I was exhausted. I cried so much, because Duncan was still a baby himself, and now he was also a big brother. I took care of both kids, the house, everything. I often cried myself to sleep. Thinking that this is not how my life was supposed to turn out. Yes, things got soooooo much better. When we decided to try for this baby, we both new about my depression, so did my dr. No one said anything about it. dh and I talked it over for months. And we could not be happier about this baby. Yes, I still am on meds, yes, I am still depressed quite a bit, mood swings form heck. However, I would NEVER NEVER NEVER harm any of my children. Yes it is a physical illness. But there is a time in depression when you know you need help. Some just think it will go away. She sought out help. SHe was on medication. I don't see how anyone can blame her pregnancies for what she did. There is nothing I ever wanted more in my life than my children. Please, I didn't mean to blast you. This just hit me hard. Dont take it personally. But it hurts to think that someone thinks that just because I have gone through PPD, or depression, that I shouldn't have any more kids, or put them off indefinately. Yes, her Dr should have said something to the affect of changing her meds, her husband should have noticed. But they didn't. There are things that are not someones fault, ie: alzheimers, dementia. But these things are far different from depression. In depression, you know what you are doing 99% of the time. Just sometimes you can't see your way out. She knew, she had to know there was another way. She just chose not to find one.