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what a horrible woman!!!!

post #1 of 5
8/13/01 at 11:18pm
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My husband and I have just found out that the mother of his daughter wants to get him to sign his rights away so she can supposedly get married to some guy. This we have been told may be a ploy to guilt my husband into going back to her. She has taken off with my sd again and we have no qlue where she is again. We have not seen my sd in almost a year and have heard horrilbe stories concerning her welfare. Is there anything we can do? We are so worried about her and would really love to get custody of her. Any advice would be wonderful.
Katie
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post #2 of 5
8/14/01 at 8:00am
I'm no expert here, but if there is any type of legal arrangement ... child support, visitation, etc, I'd be calling the family courts and looking into getting court orders. Also, once you find her, I'd call social services and ask them to evaulate the living conditions and tell them what rumors you have heard.

I think it's terrible what she is putting your husband through. I don't quite understand why signing away his rights would allow her to remarry. Then she'd lose child support. That seems a little, well, stupid IMO.

Anyway, good luck and keep us posted!
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post #3 of 5
8/14/01 at 12:23pm
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Originally posted by Dawn
I'm no expert here, but if there is any type of legal arrangement ... child support, visitation, etc, I'd be calling the family courts and looking into getting court orders. Also, once you find her, I'd call social services and ask them to evaulate the living conditions and tell them what rumors you have heard.
I completely agree with Dawn!!!

I'm sorry your husband has to go thru this and I hope you are able to work something out!!
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post #4 of 5
8/14/01 at 1:43pm
I sure am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I have been in your shoes though. My dh's ex wife took their son, remarried and ran off w/ him for 2 years and wouldn't give an address or phone number. Once I got together w/ dh, I helped him track her down.......well, she heard that we were in her town......so we got close to where she was hiding out, but never found her......and she slapped a restraining order on my dh. We went to court to fight it, and we won.....there were no grounds for a restraining order. So.....then they tried to take us to court to have my dh's rights taken away and have the step dad adopt his son.....we fought that tooth and nail and won. In our state.....if you have made an attempt to even contact the child....via child support or even mail.....the court cannot grant the petition for step parent adoption. She was trying so hard to get her son away from my dh and make her self scarce so that it would look like my dh abandoned his son. Well, when we told the judge that the only way we were allowed to see my dh's son was through supervised visits, but we had no address or phone number to give the center so we could set up the visitation.....the judge turned to my dh's ex and lectured her about giving the proper info. and whereabouts of THEIR son, not HERS. You can fight it.....and we both did it w/ out lawyers too. If you need more info...email me. txcutiepatootie25@yahoo.com.
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post #5 of 5
8/14/01 at 2:29pm

Oh Katie - I'm so sorry...

We are going through the same thing here and you've gotten really good advice. Try and not get too overwhelmed. We don't know where my SD is either and haven't seen her since last summer. Her mother is being very uncooperative and have NO idea where they are now. Haven't heard from sd since June. The courts seem to be the only way when adults DON"T ACT LIKE ADULTS!! It's the kids that suffer.
Heather

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