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Conflict over where to spend Thanksgiving?

post #1 of 17
11/9/03 at 3:59pm
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Is there ever any conflict between you and your mate/spouse over where your family is spending Thanksgiving?
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post #2 of 17
11/9/03 at 4:01pm
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For the last five years we have spent Thanksgiving at home while all of my siblings go to my parents home.

I have not see some of them in years and would like to stop by my parents house even it is after I serve my family their Thanksgiving meal. Tim wants us to stay home regardless.
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post #3 of 17
11/9/03 at 4:05pm
no, everybody is coming here!
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post #4 of 17
11/9/03 at 4:08pm
Nope with my parents in FL and Ed's there for the winter that leaves just his siblings and I think they go to tier inlaws. It will be just the 4 of us.
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post #5 of 17
11/9/03 at 4:11pm
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We never went to see Tim's family during the holidays because they live in Indiana and Hawaii.

All of my extended family lives here in San Antonio or Seguin.
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post #6 of 17
11/9/03 at 4:29pm
Nope not really.

We start the day out at Den's grandma Dot, then move on to Grandma Frenzel, then move on to my parents for supper. Lots of yummy food. Then the Saturday after Thanksgiving is Den's step mom's thanksgiving.

We don't try exclude anyone. We stop by everywhere even if it is for a short time!
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post #7 of 17
11/9/03 at 6:01pm
We used to split it - we'd have dinner @ my Mom's w/ bros/sils around 1-1:30, spend some time there, and then go to his parents around 5 and eat again! But since his Dad has been gone, his Mom comes over to mine's and we're all together.
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post #8 of 17
11/9/03 at 7:01pm
Sandra - want us to go see Tim's family since we're in the same state?

We don't really have any conflict - since we live in the same town as all of John's family and see them a lot, most holidays are spent with my family. My family generally celebrates Thanksgiving on the actual day but Christmas is celebrated sometimes on another day so we'll spend Christmas with John's side.
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post #9 of 17
11/9/03 at 8:02pm
nope. They are all coming here this year. Kevs family is going to a restraunt. If they want to see us - they can come here. Lys in a restraunt is not my idea of spending holiday time.
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post #10 of 17
11/9/03 at 8:07pm
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It was easier in my first marriage because everuone celebrated on different days, but with Tim...

he likes staying home beacause we have Michael but I tell him hey when I was pregnant and we still stayed home )I was on bedrest though) but I made that turkey a turkey for that day when I should stay in bed and Michael came 2 weeks later early!

I tell him Michael came our too soon all because Daddy wanted his turkey!

I really want Michael to see his cousins and Aunts and Uncles.
If not for Thanksgiving at least Christmas! I am hoping to go with or without Dh later that Thanksgiving day to see family!
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post #11 of 17
11/10/03 at 3:04am
I'd be letting him sit there and watch TV or nap while you and Micheal go and see your family.
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post #12 of 17
11/10/03 at 10:19am
Both DH and I's family live here so we stop by my mom's first say happy Thanksgiving! Leave go to my dad's family for lunch stay for an hour or two then we go to his parent's for more food! I can't wait to get a bigger house so that we can have the get togethers so we don't have to leave, it is harder since having a child and having to get her out of the house and into a car seat six times a day.
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post #13 of 17
11/10/03 at 10:33am
Sandra - leave him @ home and GO !!
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post #14 of 17
11/10/03 at 10:51am
I agree with Lisa and Maree!

I'd go. Maybe he'd realize how important it is to you too see some of your family. With some people that is all they get together.

My family was blessed with big Sunday dinners so we all saw each other every Sunday. Sometimes it was a little too soon for some of us cousins...lol
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post #15 of 17
11/10/03 at 12:22pm
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I love the idea of getting 2 Thanksgiving meals!
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post #16 of 17
11/10/03 at 12:36pm
I am sorta like Tim in that I like being home with my immediate family on holidays, especially since having kids because I want to start our own traditions. But then we see them ALL the time so it's not like holidays are the only time we get together.

But I don't mind the day before or after getting together with family for a big family feast. And I don't even mind visiting with different family members on the actual holiday, just don't want to stay forever which is what happens when we all get together at the same time.

But if they decided to do it on the actual day, we'd go, even if for a short time. Alexander loves playing with his cousins and there's no way I would deny him that. Plus it's fun getting together with the family to celebrate the holidays, so if they decided to do it on Thanksgiving day or Christmas day, we'd be there.

I agree that you should let Tim stay home and take Michael over to visit with your family. You both would enjoy it and if you can convince Tim to go, I'm sure he'd enjoy it too!!
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post #17 of 17
11/10/03 at 12:39pm
LOL!! Try THREE Thanksgiving meals Sandra. Trust me it does NOT do wonders for the diet. I mean you wouldn't want to offend anyone and not eat
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