My family...Sat. was not good

Anyway, Saturday wasn't all bad. I got to see my grandma do a sign-language solo at her church for the annual Christmas celebration. She did so well! She says she messed up a bit but no one noticed. It was a really pretty program. They even had a couple of songs with puppets in the background...too cute and very funny!

Now on to the sadness...I am so fed up with my family. I told you guys we had a Christmas party on Saturday right? We'll we did and we all went. My DH, me, Jesse, my sis, and my BIL. I told the host (longtime friend of the family) that we were not going to stay if a certain person was there. This guy has been nothing but heartache for my family but because he is the best friend of my mom's bf he's always at family stuff. For Thanksgiving I had it here 'cause I knew if I didn't he would show up. He doesn't dare show his face around my house. My DH would knock him out or worse. My BIL feels the same way about the guy. All I can tell you guys about this guy is that he took advantage of me at age 16 and got me addicted to cocaine at the same time. After I got smart and met Adam I realized just how messed up my life was. My dad wanted to kill him and at the time so did my mom but now she acts like nothing ever happened. Even after he went after my sis too! I've worked darn hard to get my life back on track and be someone my son can look up too and my stupid family just keeps bringing this disgusting person back around!


So anyway, we go over there and we're all having a good time and then guess who walks in the door!? The guy! Followed by my mom and her bf. Mom comes to me and tells me that her bf just wouldn't listen to reason and told her that he didn't care how we felt about his friend and that he was bringing him no matter what. I went straight to the host and told him that we were leaving. My DH and BIL CANNOT be in the same room as this guy or there will be a fight. The host goes over to my DH and asked to speak with him in the bedroom. He proceeds to tell my DH that he "knows where he's been" and "knows how he feels" etc... My DH just told him he was finishing his beer and then we were all leaving. And that it was none of his business.


So they come out and Adam agrees to wait until presents are opened. We're all sitting there opening presents and I realize after all the presents are gone that my BIL got NOTHING! Not one darn thing! I looked at him and could tell he was so hurt. Everyone in the entire house got a present including the guy that we can't stand! But my BIL got zip! I told DH we were outta there and we left. I cannot believe I'm related to these people! Don't get me wrong, I love my mom but she's a wimp when it comes to her stupid bf. He's like 6 ft. 6 inches tall and acts like he rules everyone and everything. I can't stand him or his stupid friend. I just wish things had gone differently. I wish they could respect my wishes but I know they won't. I was crying my eyes out by the time we got home 'cause it was all just too much. My DH and I have decided that this is the absolute LAST time we are ever going to a family event. It's just not worth the heartache.


Well, I don't even know why I'm telling you all this. I just needed to get it out. If you got this far thanks for listening. I know you guys wouldn't think less of me or anything. I'll write more later when I'm in a better mood.

Thanks so much. I know they aren't going to change and as much as it hurts I'm the one who will have to be the "bad guy" and say enough. It just sucks.

Thanks you all! It really helps to be able to see that all of you think I'm doing the right thing by separating myself. It's really hard too 'cause I love my mom but since she's been with this guy she's just weak. He gets the last say on everything even if he's completely wrong. And the other guy, yeah, he's a big loser. He was even caught one time hanging out in front of a middle school for no apparent reason. But it's okay though 'cause he will get his. He's a dealer and I can't say what will happen but let's just say the authorities have a very large file on him and when they get enough he will be going away for a long time. Can't wait until that day. I just hope my mom doesn't go down too. He's always at their house with his stuff. That's why we don't go there and why my son is no longer aloud either. He's a peice of crap.