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post #1 of 20
12/29/03 at 7:43pm
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OK I have to admit, she is great for the most part, like how nice it is that she is planning a Suprise Baby shower for me on Saturday That is nice right, even if I have to drive 6 hours and I'm . #1 she Knows I hate Surprises, #2 I have to DRIVE 6 hours!!!! Her and my Sister Call my husband and tell him he needs to send them money for food and things that are needed for the shower, First of all, if he sends them a check ,do they not Think I will wonder "Why is my husband is sending money to my mother????" We dont mind pitching in for the shower that is not the issue, but why do they have to be that way, it was their idea, and now my husband feels bad and so do I, I dont even want to go now, even if Im not supposed to know. Myabe I m over-reacting but i dont know! BTW, a Friend told me like 3 months ago about the shower by accident. Why does everything always have to be about
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post #2 of 20
12/29/03 at 8:38pm
I'm sorry Vanessa. But if they're going to throw a shower, proper etiquette says they pay for it. I hope you have fun anyway!
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post #3 of 20
12/29/03 at 8:40pm
Hmmmm, I would be upset too. I mean, if you are gonna have to pay for it, wouldn't it just make more sense that you take THAT money and buy things you need for the baby and not food and stuff to entertain people?????
I do hope that you have fun and they come up with some good things for you.
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post #4 of 20
12/29/03 at 8:48pm
I can't believe they asked y'all to send money!
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post #5 of 20
12/29/03 at 8:54pm
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Thanx guys, ohh and my hubby found out that only like 4 of my friends are going anyway the rest are my mom's guests!!
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post #6 of 20
12/29/03 at 9:01pm
how are they luring you to do a six hour drive?
must be something good or important eh?
if you are not supposed to know
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post #7 of 20
12/29/03 at 9:32pm


I am sorry

I would have just told them you need the money and you don't want to give it to them for a shower they are throwing!
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post #8 of 20
12/29/03 at 9:47pm
I would have to say that they should be paying for it. I could see if he went to them and asked them to organize it and what not. But he didn;t and only 4 of the guests will be your friends. I hope you end up having a good time and that they make it worth your while for going and having to pay.
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post #9 of 20
12/30/03 at 12:41am
Well that sucks..supposed to be a surprise shower that someone else is throwing for you and you are paying for it? I am so sorry..
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post #10 of 20
12/30/03 at 3:55am
I've never heard of paying for your own shower before. That would make me a little mad! Sorry you have to deal with this.
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post #11 of 20
12/30/03 at 7:13am
I hope you get a lot of nice things to make it worth your while.
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post #12 of 20
12/30/03 at 1:09pm
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And another thing, we let my mom drive my car, under the condition that she would pay half the car payment, wel now she does not want to give me all the money for the car payment so that she can use it for the shower~~ Am I supposed to call the car company and tell them ," sorry I cant pay you because my mother decided to have a baby shower!!"?? I know she has No money, but I didnt ask for her to have a baby shower!
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post #13 of 20
12/30/03 at 1:27pm
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By the way , thanx guys!!
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post #14 of 20
12/30/03 at 1:38pm
I think it would be one thing if your husband OFFERED to give money. DH did that with my neighbor who was throwing my shower, because we know they can't really afford it. It is rude of them to call and ask for money. As for the distance, are most of the guest closer to your mom? I can understand it being at her house if that is the case, but they should plan it when you were already coming to visit. How is it supposed to be a surprise if you weren't planning a trip anyway? Sorry, but hope it turns out nice!
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post #15 of 20
12/30/03 at 1:52pm
YIKES! Sorry to hear about the car payment. I would tell her you can't be expected to pay for both
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post #16 of 20
12/30/03 at 2:06pm
So let me get this straight .....

1. You already know about this "surprise" shower?
2. They are making you drive 6 hours to get there?
3. They are asking you to help pay for it?
4. And now your mom can't make her share of the car payment because she is throwing you this shower?

I'm sorry, but I would have to tell them all that, while you appreciate the thought, you just can't do it because.....

1. You already know about it
2. 6 hours to too long to drive when you are pregnant
3. It's tacky to ask you to pay for your own shower
4. You would rather have the car payment made than have the shower.

Just my opinion, here.
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post #17 of 20
12/30/03 at 2:35pm
You have to pay money towards your own shower that someone else is throwing!?!? I had thought I had heard it all, but that is rediculous!!
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post #18 of 20
12/30/03 at 3:19pm
I agree with everyone but think Brenda put it best. If you end up going, I hope you get lots of good stuff.

Personally, there's no way I would be going and absolutely no way I would be sending them money. And if she didn't send me the money for the car payment then I'd be telling her to bring me my car back. But that's me. You seem like a much nicer person.
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post #19 of 20
12/31/03 at 12:42am
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I agree with all of you, but I dont want my family to fight!!
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post #20 of 20
12/31/03 at 1:03pm
Not to rag on your family but really though, they should be paying for it and not you guys. But whatever....my family would be the same way! lol I know your pain.
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