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Those are MY drugs a big gripe about my dad and step mom

post #1 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:19pm
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I just have to get this out because I am super ticked off about it.

I don't have a lot of contact with my dad and stepmom since they live in California. My dad and I are not real close. He almost never calls me...maybe once a year or so. Usually it is me calling him. We have a pretty fragile relationship as it is and at one point I was so angry at him I did not talk to him for almost a year.

Here are some of the little things that just eat at me....
It took him almost 2 years to realize that my husband's name is COURT and not GUY which is my last name.

I have never received so much as a phone call when I gave birth to any of the kids. Nor did I receive a phone call when I got married. I do not care about gifts but a card or an email or a phone call would be nice.

I always always always send birthday, mother's day and christmas to my stepmom even though I do not like her. I do it for my dad because I love him and want to keep the peace. I can not remember the last time they sent a gift. We did get a card this year which brings me to the first thing I am ticked about.
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post #2 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:20pm
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My stepmom sent the christmas card and it said they had to pay taxes on the house and there would be no gifts this year because they did not have the money. That they were not doing gifts for anyone. I have 2 stepsisters and a stepbrother...4 step nephews and a niece. When asked how his Christmas was he told us it was a nice quiet Christmas at home and since they had no money he and my stepmom did not exxhange gifts..just bought for the kids (all of the stepsisters, brother and nieces and nephews). Now I do not care if he buys me anything but I do care that he lies about it.

Ok so that is my first issue...and if you are still reading this thank you so much it is gonna be long....
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post #3 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:23pm
Pour it all out Meagan
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post #4 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:25pm
Keep it coming honey let it out...
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post #5 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:26pm
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Here is my second gripe...

My stepmom is just nasty white trash that my dad married and as you can see I really do not care for her at all.

About 2 weeks ago I called my dad. I can not remember how the conversation came up but we were talking about pain killers and I said jokingly I had a cupboard full and I do..I am not a big pill taker. My dad mentioned he had driven some ungodly distance to a friends for some painkillers for my stepmom and he wanted to know if I could please mail some pain killers to my stepmom and some of my valium as well.

Well I never did because after talking to my mom she was pointing out how illegal that is and going through the mail it is a federal offense etc. So my dad does not call on Christmas or the day after...but he calls the 26th wanting to know if I have sent the drugs yet. And I said no and I was not going to send them. I was trying to make light of the situation...make it a joke. Told him she needed to find her own supplier etc. He was liek oh come on..just stick them in a tic tac box and mail them out no one will know.

It pisses me off that he only calls me to get her drugs. I told him she needed to go to the doctor and get her own! I don't know if she has a drug problem or not but I am not going to be sending her anything.
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post #6 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:28pm
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Ok I think that is it for now. I could kep typing out pages and pages about how pissed off my dad makes me but I won't bore you.
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post #7 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:30pm
I sure as heck wouldn't be sending her any either. If she needs them that bad, she needs to see a doctor and not be begging them off of everyone. And for your father to not call on Christmas but to call the day after because they haven't yet received the pills, you were a lot nicer than I would have been.

As for the Christmas presents, sorry that you were lied to. I know that hurts.
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post #8 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:31pm
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post #9 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:32pm


You have got to be kidding. Do Not send him anything. They can not give you the time of day when it happens to be for your family but can conviently call when it is for the WTmomma. I dont thinks so. You have a right to be ticked. Then to buy the other children gifts. NOT!

I would so be giving him a break and not having contact with him for a while. You have your Stepdad which you have said is more of a father than this one right? Tell him you cant afford the ticket or jailtime if you all are busted, or if he wants tic tacs send him tic tacs then...

Sorry you/and family are being treated like this!
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post #10 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:42pm
I wouldn't send anything either!
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post #11 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:59pm
Oh yeah, I would be ticked!

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post #12 of 39
12/30/03 at 12:59pm
I wouldn't send any either. How dare he ask for drugs! If she has a problem it needs to be addressed by a doctor not helped by him!

I'd be upset too!
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post #13 of 39
12/30/03 at 1:00pm
Don't send them anything, and tell them that your kids need you at home, not in jail for mailing controlled substances over state lines.

I am so sorry honey. Keep it coming out, it may help!
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post #14 of 39
12/30/03 at 1:57pm
Omigosh! I would be fumin' too!! I'm sorry that they are so rude to you honey.
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post #15 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:04pm
I can't even believe he asked you to send him/her drugs. That's so not right.

I'm sorry that he was so rude and inconsiderate!!!

You should have said, "I sent them through the same service that you sent my kids there Christmas present Dad."
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post #16 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:08pm
I would not be sending those meds out either.....as a matter of fact I would not be sending out anything....if they can't be bothered to call you without wanting something or be nice and send you all something once in awhile then why should you be the only one to make the effort????
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post #17 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:14pm
Stand your ground, do not send the pills. She sounds like an addict and if they were medically necessary, she would have a doctor who would be prescribing them!

I am sorry your father is treating you like that!
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post #18 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:21pm
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Oh yeah..he told me to take a picture and send it to him finally. I think I should do just that!
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post #19 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:22pm
Ditto to all of the above! I am so fuming and it's not even my dad!
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post #20 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:27pm
For heaven's sake, don't send them anything! You know, I think even soliciting for drugs (which is what he's doing, even though he's not offered money for them) can be punished by law here in California - you can probably find something about it at the appropriate County website, if you want to throw that at him.

And he and the Mrs. should really rehearse to keep their stories straight -- one says no one's getting gifts, and the other says everyone but you is getting gifts? To paraphrase Mark Twain, "Always tell the truth. That way, you don't have to remember your story." Maybe they need to be reminded of that...

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post #21 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:38pm
You are doing the right thing by not sending them. I wouldn't either. AS for being lied to baout the gifts I would be ticked about that too. Not for the absecse of gifts but for the lie in general
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post #22 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:47pm
Whoa Meagan I am sorry! He didnt know your husbands FIRST name !?!? And thought it was GUY?!?? Hello???

And to lie about presents... then ask you for drugs?!?! Let me tell you something, I may be a bit of a freak, but I hate when I see people at work sharing RX drugs for migraines even - let alone having someone - YOUR OWN FATHER - ask you to mail RX drugs to you because they cant get them!?!?!

They have MUCH MORE SERIOUS issues that they need to deal with . I know its hard for you, I have a very fragile relationship with my dad too.... but you being far away from them and him neglecting to be in contact with you is the BEST thing for you and your family.

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post #23 of 39
12/30/03 at 2:50pm
What do you really think he will do with that picture?

If it is like my father probably wont even put one up!
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post #24 of 39
12/30/03 at 3:40pm
Makes me want to tell him where to put the picture

for your dad.

And these are for you

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post #25 of 39
12/30/03 at 3:58pm
I would feel the same way!

Sorry Meagan
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post #26 of 39
12/30/03 at 5:58pm
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So what do you think of the picture I took???

http://www.babyuniversity.com/forums...threadid=74045
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post #27 of 39
12/30/03 at 5:58pm
Do not send him any medication! You could get in lots of trouble. It sounds to me like one or both of them might have a drug problem. You're dad sounds a little too anxious for you to send him some medication. I certainly hope he is not addicted to painkillers.
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post #28 of 39
12/30/03 at 6:03pm
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Don't worry I would not and will not do it.
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post #29 of 39
12/30/03 at 9:43pm
I would be too. What nerve! I am sorry you have such a poor excuse for a dad Meagan
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post #30 of 39
12/31/03 at 3:05am
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