Argh!!! 
I have been so upset lately and I don't need it. My dh's ex wife likes to make our lives such a soap opera, that sometimes, I can't handle all her drama on top of just daily living and stress. When my dh and I first got pg w/ our 1st child together, dh's ex about had a cow. Our lives were miserable and she was happy when she knew she was creating turmoil b/w us. Anyway....this woman can be nice and friendly, but buddy, you do something to make her mad and she will try to manipulate the situation the best she can just to get back at you, and what is sad is that she is always using her son, my ss to get back at us with. What happened recently was that we had a slight disagreement. She made a comment that I found offensive and I voiced my opinion to her, not wanting to hurt her feelings, and she got all defensive and mad. My dh tried to defend me (he tried) but he just made things much worse. I tried to explain to this woman that what my dh was saying was not true, and everything just went down hill from there. I came home one night and got this hate email in my box and it said that she doesn't trust us, and that the Xmas trip for my SS to come out this year will not happen unless we fly out there for Xmas to see him. Mind you.....we had just had this phone conversation on Sunday talking about the arrangements for my SS's trip out here. He's all excited and happy, and now that the ex is mad at ME, not my dh, but ME, she is going to take away my SS's chance of coming out here!!!!!!! Arghhh!!!! She has done this once before. She cut off all lines of communication w/ us except for mail.....(we live in TX, they are in OR) and then finally realized that was ridiculous and now we're allowed every other weekend phone calls.
I tried emailing her back and telling her that this is childish and that she isn't getting back at me, but at her own son!!! She and my dh had just discussed switching the custody to joint since we live so far away, and Johnathan can fly out every other summer and we can spend some time w/ him. Well, now that is nixed, and she is telling me now that she is going to raise our child support (we can't afford that.....I'm pg and we have a 7 month old....I'm only working PT and dh's been out of work for 2 1/2 wks b/c of injuries!!!) AND.......she is going to ask for day care expenses to be paid for as well. Now, this really makes me sick b/c this woman is on every darn kind of welfare assistance that there is. She and her dh work, and she babysits now for an extra income. PLUS.....she's getting our child support money!!!! This woman is going to cause me to miscarry, or pull my hair out!!! I can't handle all the extra stress right now. What can I do?? I just sent her back and email and said, look I don't want to play these childish games with you. We are still trying to figure out what made you mad at us enough to cancel all our plans??!!! I told her whatever she wanted to do was fine but to just leave me alone and quit emailing me about it. She hasn't emailed me back yet and I'm actually quite relieved. ( I did this to her last time she tried to cut off our communication and make sure we couldnt' talk to my SS, then she finally emailed me b/c she realized that it was hurting my SS and she allowed the phone calls.) I think that this woman enjoys a good arguement once in a while and b/c my dh won't put up w/ it and I'm such a passionate person, she knows I'll give in. I try not to, but sometimes it is just sooooooo hard. So..I've learned just to ignore her and she can do what she wants. Any opinions or comments are appreciated!!!
I won't disclose her name b/c she used to visit this site and now she's on another parents site w/ me.......which is VERY hard to deal with too!!!!
Julie
I have been so upset lately and I don't need it. My dh's ex wife likes to make our lives such a soap opera, that sometimes, I can't handle all her drama on top of just daily living and stress. When my dh and I first got pg w/ our 1st child together, dh's ex about had a cow. Our lives were miserable and she was happy when she knew she was creating turmoil b/w us. Anyway....this woman can be nice and friendly, but buddy, you do something to make her mad and she will try to manipulate the situation the best she can just to get back at you, and what is sad is that she is always using her son, my ss to get back at us with. What happened recently was that we had a slight disagreement. She made a comment that I found offensive and I voiced my opinion to her, not wanting to hurt her feelings, and she got all defensive and mad. My dh tried to defend me (he tried) but he just made things much worse. I tried to explain to this woman that what my dh was saying was not true, and everything just went down hill from there. I came home one night and got this hate email in my box and it said that she doesn't trust us, and that the Xmas trip for my SS to come out this year will not happen unless we fly out there for Xmas to see him. Mind you.....we had just had this phone conversation on Sunday talking about the arrangements for my SS's trip out here. He's all excited and happy, and now that the ex is mad at ME, not my dh, but ME, she is going to take away my SS's chance of coming out here!!!!!!! Arghhh!!!! She has done this once before. She cut off all lines of communication w/ us except for mail.....(we live in TX, they are in OR) and then finally realized that was ridiculous and now we're allowed every other weekend phone calls.
I tried emailing her back and telling her that this is childish and that she isn't getting back at me, but at her own son!!! She and my dh had just discussed switching the custody to joint since we live so far away, and Johnathan can fly out every other summer and we can spend some time w/ him. Well, now that is nixed, and she is telling me now that she is going to raise our child support (we can't afford that.....I'm pg and we have a 7 month old....I'm only working PT and dh's been out of work for 2 1/2 wks b/c of injuries!!!) AND.......she is going to ask for day care expenses to be paid for as well. Now, this really makes me sick b/c this woman is on every darn kind of welfare assistance that there is. She and her dh work, and she babysits now for an extra income. PLUS.....she's getting our child support money!!!! This woman is going to cause me to miscarry, or pull my hair out!!! I can't handle all the extra stress right now. What can I do?? I just sent her back and email and said, look I don't want to play these childish games with you. We are still trying to figure out what made you mad at us enough to cancel all our plans??!!! I told her whatever she wanted to do was fine but to just leave me alone and quit emailing me about it. She hasn't emailed me back yet and I'm actually quite relieved. ( I did this to her last time she tried to cut off our communication and make sure we couldnt' talk to my SS, then she finally emailed me b/c she realized that it was hurting my SS and she allowed the phone calls.) I think that this woman enjoys a good arguement once in a while and b/c my dh won't put up w/ it and I'm such a passionate person, she knows I'll give in. I try not to, but sometimes it is just sooooooo hard. So..I've learned just to ignore her and she can do what she wants. Any opinions or comments are appreciated!!!
I won't disclose her name b/c she used to visit this site and now she's on another parents site w/ me.......which is VERY hard to deal with too!!!!
Julie
There has to be someone who will work with you! I am gonna PM you my email addy so we can talk about this, b/c the best thing for you to do is not to post anymore info about what you are gonna do here, since it can be seen by anyone
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