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Is The 2nd Baby Always More Demanding?

post #1 of 16
3/25/04 at 7:38pm
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Right from the very beginning, Livia was more "high-maintenance" than Sydney ever was. She was colicky and cranky for the first 2 months and even now that she is more like Sydney was as a baby, happy, smiley, easy-going, I am still finding that she is so much more demanding. When she wants something, she wants it NOW! Not 5 minutes from now, right NOW!
It's like she goes from one extreme to the other, without any happy-medium.

I constantly feel torn in too many different directions. At lunchtime today, I got everything prepared for lunch and while I had 10mins. to spare, I decided that I had better feed Livia, otherwise as soon as we sat down to eat, she'd start fussing. So I fed her and then finished getting lunch ready. Sure enough, even though she had already eaten, as soon as I sat down to eat, she started screaming. This always happens.

Today, she's not happy anywhere. She doesn't want to eat. She's not napping. And she's not happy playing either.

I just feel like she is so "high maintenance" more often than not.

Is this normal of 2nd babies? Or is this just her?
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post #2 of 16
3/25/04 at 7:40pm
That is definatly the case here with Hailey. Without a doubt there is a HUGE difference.
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post #3 of 16
3/25/04 at 7:49pm
Jordan is like this too. He does not want to be "ignored" at all.
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post #4 of 16
3/25/04 at 8:45pm
Actually Conor was more high maintainance(and still is) and Morgan was more laid back. Abby is kind of in between the two.
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post #5 of 16
3/25/04 at 9:05pm
I believe that it is more the baby than the order born. Hope you find some even ground with her.
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post #6 of 16
3/25/04 at 10:26pm
I think it is probably just the baby but I am not sure. Both my kids seem laid back. Although Kelsey seems to demand a little more but she is really just trying to keep up to Christian.
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post #7 of 16
3/25/04 at 10:43pm
Logan is deff mor high maintance then Samantha ever was.
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post #8 of 16
3/25/04 at 10:45pm
Alayna is definatly more of a pain in my rear than Ariana was, but I mean to an EXTREM!!!
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post #9 of 16
3/25/04 at 10:58pm
For me I think Justin is less maintenance than Brandon was. He is content to sit in his seats, as long as I rotate him. I mean he will sit in his swing for 15-30 minutes, then I put him on his playmat, maybe on his belly when he gets tired of the toys above him, then on to the bouncy seat or the exersaucer.

Of course he doesn't want to sleep at nap time either but does way better at night than brandon does.
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post #10 of 16
3/25/04 at 11:11pm
I hope she calms for you though, that would get tiring!
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post #11 of 16
3/25/04 at 11:14pm
My first born and last born(#1 and 4)) were more demanding then the middle two were.
I'm sure as she gets older it will get easier.
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post #12 of 16
3/26/04 at 11:10am
Leah - you are making me nervous.


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post #13 of 16
3/26/04 at 11:16am
That was how Elizabeth was. And still is.
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post #14 of 16
3/26/04 at 11:37am
I think that it is more of the baby rather than the order as well. Bailey was my 2nd born and he was VERY easy but got into stuff a lot earlier cuz he couldn't wait to keep up with Zachary!LOL!
I think that another reason why some people think that their second child is more high maintance than the first is b'cuz they have less time for the second since there are now two children to tend to.
In your case, Leah, I think that Livia is probably harder b'cuz of all the ear infections she has had. Poor baby, I would be crabby too!
I hope that things get easier for you honey!
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post #15 of 16
3/26/04 at 1:53pm
I think its probably just personality type ... probably not a birth order thing ... JMO ... Just looking at how different Ryan and Kyler are ... and each 1st children...
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post #16 of 16
3/26/04 at 2:05pm
Nicholas is liek that too. With Liz I could lay her down on the floor and she was happy and content just laying there.....wtih Nicholas, he wants to be held and snuggled ALL THE TIME.....drives me
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