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Rant about DH and TTC!

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Ok-Don't dare tell him this, but I'm ready to DH!

We've been going back and forth on the discussion about having another baby. For the longest time I said "No-absolutely not. Not right now. We can't afford it. Jonathan's too young. I'm not ready to be sick again. His job's not stable, etc. etc. etc." And he really wanted to have another one. Well, then I get to the point where I'd at least like to discuss it, and he's talking about how we should wait until we decide if we're moving or not, and we need to make sure we have the proper medical coverage, etc. Logical concerns, but there really hasnt't been anything definite decided or even OFFERED. So, I don't know what the big deal is. If he's waiting around on those people, then there's no way we can afford to go there. And we won't be having a child for another two years at least. I would like to have my children when I'm young enough to enjoy them!

So, anyhow. I went for my doctor appointment, and he said he thought it was a good idea for me to get my pills refilled. So, I did. They gave me 2 months worth of samples, and a new prescription. Well, DH was cleaning the living room, and picked up all the stuff on top of the TV and chunked it. Well, my scrip was in there and he tossed it. When I told him it was in there, he kind of looked on top of the garbage can to see if he could see it and then kind of shrugged like "oh well". Well, then he went off to DE for the week, and yesterday during church, he's talking about his visit with his family and he says, "Oh, yeah... Aunt Jackie said to give you a message." I asked him what is was, and he said "She said 'it's time'." I asked him what that was supposed to mean. He said she said we didnt' want to do what Grandma did and wait 7 years betweem all her kids. Well, DUH! So, I ask him why did he think I started that conversation last week before I went to the doctor, and he's like "What conversation?" Hello!!!! First of all, I didn't want to be having this conversation in the church lobby. Second... Does he think I still want to wait? Am I giving him the wrong signs? Third... QUIT being so stinking wishy washy!!!! One minute he says he wants another child and the next minute he says we should wait. To use one of his lines... If we wait until we can afford it, we'll never have another one. I am very frustrated with this. He doesn't want to actively try, but if I got pregnant and we weren't trying, he wouldn't be upset and we'd make it work.

Excuse me, because I just feel the need to him!
post #2 of 12
LOL You just can't win for losin' can you, Dina?????

Men I tell ya! They say we can't make up our minds!
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for you, Dina!
post #5 of 12
for DH!

I hope he figures it out next time before he talk to you in a public church lobby!
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post #7 of 12
Sorry. Kev had been the same way so I finally just went off BC and told him if he didn't want another child then it was his responsibility to use some sort of BC. It shouldn't be mine 100%. Needless to say he chose no form and now we're expecting a year later. It will all work out for you!
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Men!
post #10 of 12
him would ya!!!!

Jerry was the same way. He sat ont he fence for the longest time about whether or not we should have a second child. then I ended up with brutal migraines (daily for almost 4 months), I finally told dh i was goign to stop taking my BCP's. Once i did that my migraines stopped.....and 6 months later we were pg with Nicholas
post #11 of 12
Are you sure you aren't married to my husband? One minute he says, "I'd be just as happy if we didn't have another." The next minute he is telling me to quit taking my pills and we can do something else. Uh, HELLO! That is how we had our first child.

I don't want to be pregnant until late this year or early next year. So I'll keep suffering with this back and forth with him until I'm ready to be pregnant. Because you know his idea of something else will work the first few times, but there is always that one time *BAM* 9 months later he's getting sick in the delivery room.
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