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Do you discipline your step children?

post #1 of 13
6/3/04 at 6:04pm
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Or do you leave that up to your SO/Dh?
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post #2 of 13
6/3/04 at 6:26pm
We both do it....unless it's something major, then I leave it up to Adam....However, by discipline, I mean sending to rooms, grounding, or chores, but not spanking or smacking.

The way I see it is that they both come to me more than Adam when they need/want us to buy them something, so they need to follow my rules too. Learn to "take the good with the bad" type of deal.
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post #3 of 13
6/4/04 at 12:19am
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My stepdad did some of it like you mentioned Amy. My stepmom never did always left it up to my dad. But I was around my stepdad more.
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post #4 of 13
6/20/04 at 3:25am
Good Question this one, yes and no, on the small things yes , anything major, maree and I talked about it and then I would do the deed. It was hard on me as when maree and i got together, gregs uncles and grandparents told him if he didn't like me or the way I treated him, then go to them and they would get the police involved.that really made it hard. as they were aways involed (interferring) with us. I don't consider myself as a bad person. I have my faults, I try to be fair , but with Greg I feel I failed due to all the hassles with the inlaws, but at least when he rings from New Zealand we have a good long talk, and I am looking to seeing him when we go there next year on holiday
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post #5 of 13
7/22/04 at 9:56am
Ditto on ajg. When she is in my home and my responsibility, then she has to follow our rules. She is no different than her 3 sisters. (though bio would like to think so!!##^^**@@
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post #6 of 13
9/22/04 at 4:24am
I agree with the other step mamas. For minor things I can handle dsd but for anything major I refer it to dh or talk with him about it first.
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post #7 of 13
9/22/04 at 10:08pm
I don't have any step kids, but I agree with Amy, if they are in my house, they play by my rules too, not just their bio parents.
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post #8 of 13
3/24/05 at 3:46pm
I have been involved with Anna since she was 2 months old, and as far as I'm concerned she is as much mine as the other three and gets treated exactly the same. I have never treated her differant, if she needed a swat on the butt she got it...same with time-outs, chores etc....and it also applys to rewarding her. I make every effort to make sure I don't differentiate between the kids, which isn't hard because I have always thought of her as mine. The only time I have to involve DH is for the big decisions that I would involve him with even for the boys, or in decisions about things that should involve her mother(haircuts, ear piercing, leg shaving...etc) things that I would want to make the decisions about if I were her mother(though I did take her and buy her her first bras last summer, because she NEEDED them and her mother wasn't planning to doing it till school shopping, but I did discuss it with DH).
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post #9 of 13
3/26/05 at 1:33pm
If it was something small I did it..but usully dh was the one to handle that.
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post #10 of 13
7/6/05 at 2:14pm
my dsd doesnt live with us......in fact we barely see her. when she was younger...her mother told her she didn't have to listen to me......amazingly we got through that. because we dont see her too much........she's never really here enough to act out. she is 13.....the only thing i do get on her about is cleaning up after herself.......spreading her belogings and leaving small stuff out around my youngest, i do say something. she'll would clean it up adn then a hour or so later right back to where it was and i told dh to say something cause i did start to get irriated. i had her more when she was little and dh was working. i would punish her if she didint listen..........but spanking no way..........i do spank my kids but she's not mine so i would never go there.
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post #11 of 13
7/6/05 at 7:41pm
Yes, I do. She is around me much more than her dad. If I didn't discipline her then she would think she rules the house (which she does at times anyway.)
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post #12 of 13
7/23/05 at 10:19pm
It depends normally if he is home he deals with it. But if they are talking back to me I deal with it, or if DH is gone I handle it.
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post #13 of 13
8/12/05 at 9:00pm
I do not. I have in the past attempted too and it got ugly very quickly with dh thinking I was too hard on her. Its funny I saw this post today. I just saw Dr Phil episode where he said StepMama's should be an ally and not a disciplinarian. I might try that if we ever get another visit!
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