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What the heck? A temper tantrum at 5!

post #1 of 12
7/3/04 at 12:28am
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For the passed week or so Gavin has been having all out temper tantrums when he does not get his way. He is acting like he is two and not 5. Today for whatever reason he punched Maddie and I made him sit on the stairs (time out idea from Jan ) and he was kicking and screaming at the top of his lungs...acting like I cut his arm off....throwing stuff and so on. He did this at the store the other day to....just went limp and fell on the floor. I swear if I would not have gotten arrested for child abuse I would have walked off and left him I was so fed up.


Has anyone else had this problem?? I have told him it is OK to be mad at me and to say that he is mad at me but it is NOT ok to scream and throw things like that.
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post #2 of 12
7/3/04 at 12:30am
Oh yea .. but I can't remember what I did .. I think I walked away

to you
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post #3 of 12
7/3/04 at 12:56am
Do you think he might be acting out because he is upset about Dad being away/moving? Devon had like 3 months of acting out after we left Miami(turned out he actually liked it and ofcourse he missed his friends). I spent some one on one time with him, and we talked about how he was feeling. Really made a difference. I can't imagine how having your dad away for a while would feel as a little kid.

I hope things get better.
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post #4 of 12
7/3/04 at 1:34am
I was going to say do you think that he is really really missing Court and that is why he is acting out like this? Good luck hon
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post #5 of 12
7/3/04 at 2:28am
Sorry you have to go through this. I was in a situation like yours with my oldest daughter. My husband was away alot he is in the navy and she would act out for no reason, well if she did not get her way.

I know that it's hard but maybe you can try not to respond to him when he is acting up(screaming and throwing things). After he is finished ask him why he acted that way. Is he missing his daddy?
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post #6 of 12
7/3/04 at 8:19am
Meagan, Is there any support offered on base or by the army to deal with exactly these kinds of issues. There should be programs and people to talk with that can offer advice and maybe put you in contact with other moms going through the same thing. It really sounds like it has a lot to do with daddy being away and that is so very hard to understand and put in perspective. I hope they have something for you. Summer will be the hardest most likely because there is no school to go to everyday and get your mind on other things.
to you all.
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post #7 of 12
7/3/04 at 8:43am
I hope things get better!
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post #8 of 12
7/3/04 at 9:31am
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Robin we are not on post. We moved back home and there is nothing here.
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post #9 of 12
7/5/04 at 11:02am
Maybe you could encourage him with "man of the family" talk while his Daddy is away. Sometimes kids go for that.
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post #10 of 12
7/5/04 at 11:52am
Dont worry Meagan, you are not alone. Austin does that stuff when he gets mad to, especially when he is put in time out. He will throw stuff around and yell, his favorite is I hate you mom! I just ignore him. He cant come out of timeout until he completley chills out!
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post #11 of 12
7/8/04 at 5:43pm
Meagan, I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this! Poor Gavin, he must be going through heck too! Here is one for him too I don't have any words of wisdom, just hugs!
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post #12 of 12
7/8/04 at 6:04pm
It's perfectly normal for him to be acting out since Court is gone. He is seeing how much you will let him get away with. Just keep the boundaries the same as before, and try to spend some extra time with him. He will settle down eventually.

I think that the older the kids are, the more it affects them. And Gavin is just at the age to start asserting his independance a bit, too. That might have something to do with it.

And just to make you feel better, Drew will be 10 next month and he still sometimes has his own version of temper tantrums - stomping up the stairs, yelling and slamming doors. Make you wonder if they ever stop doing it!
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