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Annoying control freak Auntie

post #1 of 5
2/17/01 at 1:09pm
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Hi every1
I have this annoying auntie she seems 2 want 2 more or less tell me what i'm going 2 do with my baby when it's born. For example she said as soon as it's born she is coming 2 my house and she is taking it 2 town on the bus she didn't ask i mean buses have no seatbeats for a car seat there's no way she's holding it on her knee it's not safe enough and the buses weren't made 4 prams to be in the aisle
she also said that i should stop my father from seeing the baby and she said she's taking it 2 alll her friends and on holiday she might be trying 2 help but i don't want her telling me what she's doing with my baby she doesn't even have any of her own so there's no advice she can give
also she has smacked my cousins while baby sitting them and i don't want 2 give her the chance 2 smack mine
she also bought me ciggarettes at 14 years old encouraged me 2 drink and be cheeky and also took my younger cousin shoplifting at 12 years old now what sort of role model would she be??????
please help me!!!!!!!
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post #2 of 5
2/17/01 at 1:27pm

Put Your Foot Down!

I can't believe that someone would try to dictate to you what THEY are going to do with your child! You are definitely going to have to put your foot down and do what YOU KNOW is best for your child. It's hard to say it sometimes, but in the end you will know you did the right thing.

My FIL kept making what I considered to be racist remakrks in fromt of my son when he was very young and just beginning to talk. After asking him time and time again to please refrain, I was told that it was his house and he would say whatever he liked. I very calmly told him that he was correct, it was his house. However, it was MY child and if he chose to speak that way then he would have to come to my house to see him, where that type of talk is not permitted. And I did actually ask him to leave once. It was 6 months before we went back to my in-laws house. My MIL finally told my FIL that he would either curb his language or leave the house when we visited so she could see her only grandson! (They have 5 granddaughters). It was hard, especially since my husband and I were not married at the time and had only been together abou 1 1/2 years. I had to argue with my DH as well (at first), but eventually he supported my decision.

You will have to do the same thing. Stand up to her. This is not her child and she has no right to dictate to you what should be done -- especially when you so strongly disagree with her.

Just my 2-cents. Hope you're not offended.
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post #3 of 5
2/17/01 at 1:32pm
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Re: Put Your Foot Down!

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Originally posted by Spaggie
I can't believe that someone would try to dictate to you what THEY are going to do with your child! You are definitely going to have to put your foot down and do what YOU KNOW is best for your child. It's hard to say it sometimes, but in the end you will know you did the right thing.

My FIL kept making what I considered to be racist remakrks in fromt of my son when he was very young and just beginning to talk. After asking him time and time again to please refrain, I was told that it was his house and he would say whatever he liked. I very calmly told him that he was correct, it was his house. However, it was MY child and if he chose to speak that way then he would have to come to my house to see him, where that type of talk is not permitted. And I did actually ask him to leave once. It was 6 months before we went back to my in-laws house. My MIL finally told my FIL that he would either curb his language or leave the house when we visited so she could see her only grandson! (They have 5 granddaughters). It was hard, especially since my husband and I were not married at the time and had only been together abou 1 1/2 years. I had to argue with my DH as well (at first), but eventually he supported my decision.

You will have to do the same thing. Stand up to her. This is not her child and she has no right to dictate to you what should be done -- especially when you so strongly disagree with her.

Just my 2-cents. Hope you're not offended.
Hi spaggie thanks 4 your message i totally agree with u and i will put my foot down i really hate people like her they annoy me ty again maybe we'll speak again soon
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post #4 of 5
5/26/09 at 5:42am

"No Prams & Pushchairs On The Bus"

Woh! Wait up- just because she's your relation, it doesn't mean you have to even let her see your baby much.. If she's not the sort of person you'd choose to have around and influencing your children, you should put some firm barriers between you and her to protent the minds of your children. (Your immediate family is far more important than extended family, and it is really your responsibility to look after their welfare first and foremost.)

I hope this helps, thanks.
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post #5 of 5
6/19/09 at 8:37pm

Re: Annoying control freak Auntie

Wow! Some woman! I don't care who she is. This is your baby and you have to do what you think is right. If you want to allow her to see your child, I would suggest only at your own home in your company. Doesn't sound like a person I would want having any influence over any of my children.
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