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the "Talk" at 5???

post #1 of 8
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We are expecting number 4 in a little less than three months. My five year old keeps asking all these questions I am not sure I am ready to answer. I learned all the details at 9 yrs of age, but isn't five a bit early? The other day my husband and I took Duncan out for lunch after his doctors appt. He asked how the baby got into my tummy, who put it there (and I tried "God put it there" that didn't work LOL ). He also asked where the baby pottied while it was in my tummy and how the baby ate, etc. Then he asked how the baby gets out of my tummy. I told him as much as I thought I could. The truth I mean. I didn't try to skirt the issue or fill his head with things like "The stork" I told him that the doctor will help the baby out of my tummy. That there is a little.. hallway type place in mommy's body that is called the birth canal and that the baby goes down that little "Hallway" To get out. ( I did not tell him where though.. exactly) I told him that I did not have the same type of wee-wee that he did, that girls are different and God made us so that we can have babies and boys can't. I tried to explain the bag of waters (which was fun, let me tell ya.. Our waitress was doing her best not to crack up) I told him it was a little like a baloon and that there was water in there and a cord that fed the baby and when the baby needed to go potty she/he did so in the water, and when the baby was born the water would go away. Did I do right? Should I have handled this differently? Is there a .. book or something that is appropriate for a five year old that I could read to him???
I am so lost here. I did not expect these questions til later, and I don't want him thinking I won't answer questions when he has them. We have always taught them they could come to us no matter what with whatever questions they might have.
Help!!
post #2 of 8
Do they have a sibling class at your hospital? Maybe the drs office has a booklet or something that could help you out.
post #3 of 8
Here are some links to books that might help:

Where Do Babies Come From?
by Angela Royston
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...glance&s=books

Where Did I Come from
by Peter Mayle
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...glance&s=books

But How'd I Get in There in the First Place? Talking to Your Young Child About Sex
by Deborah Roffman, Deborah M. Roffman
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...glance&s=books

I hope this helps!
post #4 of 8
I think you did a good job. Lyssa is only 3 and I have been doing my best to expain it to her. (yep the whole why is the baby in your tummy)
post #5 of 8
Thread Starter 
Thank you ladies, and Lenora I will look those over
post #6 of 8
Dear Shona,
although it does seem young, your child is the third which always makes a big difference in terms of curiousity. The books suggested to you are all terrific and you should definitely take a look at them. In general it's good to be as honest as possible, using 'real' words to describe body parts, rather than nicknames. Also, speak as simply as you can and don't give more information than a five year old can handle. Have fun and good luck!
post #7 of 8
I think you did a good job!
post #8 of 8
Thread Starter 
Thank you Dr. and thenk Nicole. THis is not the easiest subject to talk to him about so young.
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