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Didn't even need the test

post #1 of 10
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By the time I got up Saturday morning AF was is full swing. I was kind of depressed I told DH I don't understand why it's taking so long this time. Ya, I know 3 months is not that long but for me it feel like it. Now are boy months are over and he really wants to go by that chart so we won't try for the next three. Will start back up in November, but then we only have three months again. If it don't happen within those three I already told him I'm going to keep trying after even if the chart says girl! I was pretty upset and he knew it, he said we could continue to try but I said no. I know he wants a boy and I could just imagin how I would feel if I said ok lets keep tying and I get PG and we have another girl, I would feel guilty. This way if we try again later and nothing happens at least it's not my fault. Life is just funny, I see so many people who just get PG without even trying then us who are have a hard time. I guess when I stop to think about it who knows how long it took them they just never knew about it. So for the next three months I won't get back on the pill we will use condoms. No matter what I have these moments where I get watery eyes and sad, I just can't help it. So I have decided to put all my energy into lossing weight. I would like to lose 30 lbs in these next three months. That would bring me back into the 150's. So today I'm going to check online for weight watchers and see when I can go. I also bought some Metabo life dietary supplements. I've taken them before so now I just have to get used to taking them again. These are ephedra (sp) free, so they shouldn't make me as wired as they used to. Anyways I guess that's about it for me. Until November.... I'm just sad I have to wait another three months to keep trying. I would also like a son, to be able to raise both a DD and DS would be so nice. But like I keep telling my self only God knows if that will happen. I sometime wonder maybe i'm not a good mother and that's why god didn't let us get PG. But then maybe I didn't give him enough time???? Am I being stupid going off that chart?? These are the things that run thru my head. All I do know is I can't make it happen if the time just isn't right. We didn't have a problem getting PG last time so I would like to think both me and DH are just fine, the timing just wasn't right. Ok enough before I go nuts trying to figure something out that I have no power over.
post #2 of 10
I'm sorry AF showed up. I don't know how well those charts work for predicting the gender. I know there is a book out on sexual positions and times in your cycle where you are more likely to get the gender of your choice. However, I think the only for sure way is to get the sperm seperated and have invetro. It took me over a year to get pregnant with my dd. Getting pregnant seems like it should be as easy as rolling off a log, but sometimes it isn't.
post #3 of 10
Sorry that AF showed up. After almost 4 years of TTC, I know how depressing and frustrating that can be.

As for the Chinese birth chart, I really don't think I'd go by that. I plugged my info into it and it says I should be having a boy. I'm having a girl.... which is wonderful for me. I think it's more for entertainment purposes.

Good luck to you!
post #4 of 10
The chart was right for both of mine, although I never looked at it until after they were born. But God has his own plan.
post #5 of 10
The chart was wrong for me twice, so I would have to say it is just one of those old wives tale things. The gender of the baby is really predicted mainly by 3 things....and you can only really influence one of them. First...which gender is higher concentrated in his sperm at the time, second.....how close to O the sperm come into play(boy sperm are faster, so if you have sex the day of or right before O, you have a higher chance for a boy; girl sperm are tougher so they live longer , so if the deposit is made a few days before O they have a better chance of being around to meet the egg) and third is the PH of your vaginal secretions(which you can slightly influence by douching with certain things right before sex)...but I can't remember which do better in which environment(I think male survive more acidic secretions, but don't hold me to it).
Personally since all factors have to come into play, your chances of actually "choosing" the sex of the baby are really far fetched, I think it is all in the hands of God, you will get what you are meant to have, and , as the mother of 3 boys.....I can honestly say in the end it won't matter.
post #6 of 10
i'm sorry AF showed up.. i'm with the opinion of some of the other ladies that the chart is more for entertainment than acuracy. I hope you can enjoy your time off from thinking of nothing but ttc.
post #7 of 10
Thread Starter 
The chart I have is different from the ones on line that I have seen. Most people who go of the one I have are right. Don't get me wrong I'm not swearing by it but I guess I'm willing to try by it one more time. But the thing is no matter if I go off the chart that dosen't mean I'll get PG. Timing is what counts, and we were just not with it these past few months. Maybe to much going on. My sister says I thought about it way to much. So now i know will try and continue so maybe I won't feel the stress. Thanks everyone for listening. to you all.
post #8 of 10
I feel your pain. I'm still ttc #1 and it is the most frustrating thing I will ever go through. Not having a child yet is driving me nuts.
post #9 of 10
I don't think you are crazy, everyone that I know of is right on the chinese birth chart, I am going by it also, but I decided that what is going to be, is going to be and I'd better learn to live with it.
post #10 of 10
A friend of mine swears by this method...if example you are 33 you want to concieve on the even months for a girl and odd months for a boy...she guessed all my boys right..I got mad at her when she told me my last one was a boy b4 I knew...
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