But IMO in one really significant way it is harder: more critizism. Almost everyday you can find an article in the news about some parent whose kid ran off, threw a tantrum or did something kids do and everyone and their dog is critizising the heck of the parents. Because there is all this information available and safety devices abound, kids are somehow not supposed to get hurt, sneak off or just plain misbehave. It's like the nonparenting world has no earthly clue what parenting is really like.
Gosh, the parents fell asleep and the kid sneaked out. They went to the bathroom and the kid got into the medicine cabinet using two chairs and a cardboard box. How could that ever happen! OMG! Call CPS and take the kids. Put them in foster homes !
You breastfed. You didn't breastfeed. You used a pacifier. You didn't use a pacifer. You made your kid wear handmedowns. You gave your kid toys. You didn't volunteer enough at your kid's school. You homeschooled. It seems like sometimes as a parent, no matter what you do, you are going to be wrong and there is going to be someone standing there telling you all your shortfalls in minute detail. Spend some time with kids unkidded people and learn that they are human beings. They don't have off switches just because mom or dad have the flu, or have to go to work (or the bathroom for that matter). They have their own minds, thoughts and feelings. They aren't just little adults who think like grown ups. And give kids and parents some slack.
Yes, there are bad parents out there. But not every parent is a bad parent and not all kids are picture perfect or little thugs.
I also think that girls are growing up quicker now than ever before ... I don't have any facts or points to back that up but I did read an article recently about how when our parents were kids, 12 was 12, when we were children 12 was 15, and nowadays 12 is the new 17. It's scary and I may get jumped on for this but I think it's in part due to the general lax in our country's morals and values.
I'd love to be the ideal mother but I'm too busy raising my kids.
Haley Olivia 8-17-96 ~ Zachary Tyler 4-30-01 ~ Asher Mackenzie born an angel 2-26-03 ~ Brenna Grace 5-4-06
Ive seen alot of parents today who try to discipline their children.. but when its alil too late.. when the kids are already lost respect for them and the parents kept giving in. I still have the same morals that I grew up as a child that my parents gave to me. Except I dont go cussing at them like mine did.
|Nowadays, kids want designer jeans, back then, I wanted the cool Jordache that zipped at the ankle or at least ones that I could do a tight roll on.|
I saw more commericals than my kids do because my mom was pretty permissive on the tv. My kids don't really see any commericals because we don't get any stations where we live. They just watch videos. I think watching a lot of commericals did make me more dissatisfied than my kids who don't watch any - especially as I got older. These jeans will make you cool. Etc. Etc.
Also, when I was a kid, the social pecking order didn't evolve until junior high. My five year old faces downright snobbery. So much for "free to be you and me". I find myself having conversations with my dd that my parents didn't have with me until I was 11 or 12.
I agree with Liz that I think Technology plays a huge part in how parenting has changed.
Seems like a lot of kids are getting whatever they want, and going wherever they want. I think parents are losing control. It's hard for me to teach my kids good morals when a lot of other parents aren't paying attention to what their kids are doing.
I agree with Elaine. Girls are growing up so fast(boys too for that matter).
And Liz, you are right. I think there has always been criticism, but it is a different world today, and the world is much more "self" focused, absolutely.
wife to Kyle 4/27/96
Proud mom of two fabulous kids:
mom to Drew (16) High School At Last!
mom to Ally (10) 4th Grade, Baby! WooHoo!
Parenthood: That state of being better chaperoned than you were before marriage. ~Marcelene Cox Sing out loud in the car even, or especially, if it embarrasses your children. ~Marilyn Penland
The joy of parenting is not there now. There is so much state intervention, preaching and political correctness that young parents seem to have lost the way. This is not the their fault. Children are important but they are only as important as the adult or adults who provided emotional care, physical care and a home environment because without these a child will not survive and I think that we need to get back to the traditional family values and structure that served my parents and grandparents very well.