Well, this anniversary, we didn't have any money. It was right after DH lost his job. So, I got him a littel something. I think it was a book he wanted. He wrote me a LOOONG letter, (He is NOT a letter writer) and told me how much he appreciated me for sticking with him through all we'd been through. And he told me how much he loved me, and all of the little things that he appreciated that I did for him from day to day. It was like, "WOW! He actually noticed." It was really sweet, and I have it in my scrapbook.
I'd agree with having a night alone, if at all possible. Even if you can't affordc a hotel, and it's just to have dinner and a movie alone or something.