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#1 of 3 Old 12-01-2005, 09:53 AM - Thead Starter
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because somewhere in there it says I vow to lay on my back at all times DH requests so without any regard for my being 6 months pregnant and uncomfortable and sometimes in pain when doing it. I apparently agreed to never say no and just do my wifely duty at any time he so desires.

I am so tired of him getting attitude because I say no when he asks to "make love" and then of the attitude when he says what if we just do it for me. to him for not getting that I am pregnant, whether he likes it or not, and it is not always a pleasure for me to be intimate. There is no consideration for my feelings or well being at all. There is no affection at any other time, there is no contact, there is no nothing. I told him last night my ring is on the counter, consider himself free to find someone else that will do what he wants. I said I wish I would have known before we married that all I was there for was a hole between my legs. His comeback was he wished he knew before we got married that I would stop putting out. F*ck you and the horse you rode in on thinking that I owe you anything.

I am calling the dr today for a counseling appointment. Not that it makes a difference to him because DH agrees when we all talk about it, but once we get home it is a different story.
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There is no affection at any other time, there is no contact, there is no nothing.
There is his first problem - he needs to treat you like he loves you if he EVER wants you to be interested. And not just because he wants - because he loves you. If he doesn't, then he's got a whole 'nother issue.
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I told him last night my ring is on the counter, consider himself free to find someone else that will do what he wants. I said I wish I would have known before we married that all I was there for was a hole between my legs. His comeback was he wished he knew before we got married that I would stop putting out.
First, I hope he doesn't take you up on that. Second, did he really say that? I'd've killed him. If all he wanted was a hole with legs around it, he can rent that easy enough - why'd he bother with marriage at all? Sheesh. For cryin' out loud - you're 6 months pregnant. What if the doctor told you to abstain - he'd still be mad at you for not 'putting out', even if it endangered the child, right? He's thinking with his d!ck, and that's not the smarter head, usually.
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I am calling the dr today for a counseling appointment. Not that it makes a difference to him because DH agrees when we all talk about it, but once we get home it is a different story.
If I were you, I'd focus on you at the appointment - what can you do to feel better about your part of the relationship. Screw his part of it - he has to be a man and fix that himself. And it sounds like he's not interested in that.

to you. I hope someone slaps some sense into him soon. Maybe Maree should send you the BabyU 2x4??
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OHHH Maree........


Today he calls me and says he isn't going to ask anymore, that I don't need to worry about it. Why is it that he doesn't get it? If he asks, if I feel like, he might get a yes. But don't give me attitude if I say no, I mean think that it might just be a bad day for me. He just doesn't get it.

And Judy you are right. He has a blow up doll in the closet from his batchelor party, use that!! Just a little affection/attention would go such a long way he just doesn't understand that. Or when we talk about it rationally, he'll say he gets it, but it never lasts. The comback I'll get is that I don't show it either, well why should I? The only affection/attention he wants/needs is sex.
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