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#1 of 11 Old 05-23-2006, 01:21 PM - Thead Starter
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and I am not proud of it...



We have instilled some bad habits on both kids and we can not break them....both inolve sleeping...

1. Ryan sleeps with us. He has slept with us for quite some time. It all started when I went into the hospital for preterm labor for almost 2 months on bedrest. This was such a huge change that he started sleeping in my bed (and in my spot) ... He is still there (which really, I don't mind at all) but now he wakes up during the night asking for drinks, and if we say no he has a meltdown...and I give in because I don't want him to wake Aidan.... and he is so big now he is kicking me or on top of me all night, I am on the EDGE of the bed. He needs to be cuddled to sleep.

2. Aidan has been sleeping in his carseat carrier for 1 1/2 months...He is too big for it to be iused in the car so it just stays in his crib... OMG how did we get in this predicament .... I know this is awful I know it is... It all started when we went to stay in the hotel when our floors were being redone and he had no where to sleep... that was also when he started sleeping through the night. When he was on his back he was up crying alot... when he was in the car seat he slept fine all night. We have raised his mattress on one side and it doesn't seem to help much. It really seems when he lays flat for anything he cries in 'pain' and not out of spoiled-ness... I am thinking this is all related to ears-asthma-something... and maybe we need to wait until he see's the specialist before we try to get him on his back to sleep...

We tried last night (for the 1st time)... he fell asleep when I was feeding him, I laid him down in his crib and he slept 20 minutes. Woke up with a SHREIK cry, calmed him down gave him about an ounce, went back to sleep... 20 minutes later the same drill. By 11pm we had him back in his carrier. Woke up coughing and needed his inhaler at 2am again .. then went back to sleep. When he wake sup in his carrier he just wakes, no crying...

At daycare, he only naps 20 minutes at a time because he sleeps in the pack & play, when he falls asleep in their swing he sleeps longer...


Any advice (for either) ? Or are you just going to say though it will be hard we need to endure 2 weeks of sleepless nights to change that habit and stay strong?
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For Aiden, I'd try raising the crib higher and then lower it as he gets used to it. I don't think it's such a horrible thing really.

For Ryan, If you want him in his won bed then I'd move him there and be firm. He's old enough to understand that he's manipulating you. But if it doesn't bother you then let him stay. He'll move eventually on his own.
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Hmmm... I'm no help because I am guilty of both of those! Zachary slept with me until he was 10 months old and then again between the ages of 3 and 4 and Brenna sleeps with me now. Haley slept better in her carseat than anywhere else (I'm sure it has something to do with feeling snug and cuddled in there and she and Zach both would spend hours napping in their carseats or even all night if I didn't want to risk waking them to move them.

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My son slept in my bed for about 1 1/2 years until last year. I bought him a big boy bed that he refused to sleep in. I started by laying with him for about 5 mintues and telling him that he was going to be ok and that I promised to check on him once he falls asleep. He would try to come out and would take him back encouraging him that he was fine and that I wasn't going to let anything happen. I started checking on him and asking if he was ok and he would say " yes mommy" eventually I didn't even have to do that. It took about 5 days. It was hard the first couple of nights and I had to take him back and threaten to spank or take away his toys the following morning but still encouraging him that he was ok....

It's really hard and also very rewarding at the end.....
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If it's not bothering you and Scott, then it's no one's business where Ryan sleeps. It sounds like sleeping upright helps Aiden keep his lungs and sinsuses drained so he can sleep longer. I wouldn't worry about either. The important thing is everyone is happy and getting their rest.

 
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Well, if you do want Ryan in his own bed, you're gonna have to be firm....And sleepy for awhile. Talk to him ahead of time and tell him it is time for him to sleep in his big boy bed. Then just keep sending him to bed, he will realize that you are serious and he will adapt.

As far as Aiden, I might wait until the ear thing is sorted out.
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I am no help because if it wasn't for DH being stern during my second shift I would still be laying with them. I miss it. It is like I sleep better knowing they are next to me. I know not healthy but I resist the erge and sleep without them.
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well alex used to sleep in our bed till james came now james sleeps with us usually he either starts out in our bed and we move or he come in the middle of the night and i just let him stay or if i am awake i tell him to go bk to bed .usually he listens the way i see it is that they will eventually be to big to sleep with us so whats a year or two or three or four out of our lives ( ok now i feel creepy :hehe: )
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sounds like it is time for Ryan to get in his own bed. he is not an enjoyable bedmate.

For Aiden, sounds like he is comfortable in the car seat i would leave him there until eventually he is ok in his crib.
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I used to bribe Joey to stay in his own bed... if he stayed there all night, he'd get a nickel in the morning. Later, it became a dime, and I added that if we woke in the morning and he was in our bed (and there wasn't a thunder storm or something), he had to pay us a dime. It worked for a while, but since we moved, I haven't been keeping up on it.
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We all make mistakes. I put Isaiah to bed with a bottle and I'm having a VERY hard time breaking him of this habit!
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