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#1 of 16 Old 05-26-2006, 04:26 PM - Thead Starter
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I don't know what to do with Isaiah anymore. He's driving me up the wall. He doesn't want to play with me he just wants to get into things and I don't know what to do about it. I hate living in this small apartment with a baby where there's nothing to do but be destructive. I'm losing my mind and I have no one here to help me. I actulaly liked having a baby better when he was 3 months old. I'm not even sure I like him anymore. I feel like such a bad mother. Everytime I try to hold him he hits me in the face and pushes me away. It hurts my feelings and I know he's just a baby but it still hurts. I feel so alone. I don't know who to talk to about this. I try to tell my husband but he just thinks I'm being too dramatic and he can't do anything anyways because he's so far away. I need someone out there to give me some advice. Anything. Please...
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Have you tried mixing up his toys to give him a different choice of options to keep him interested in something. THey get bored like us. Did you look into a MOPS group?
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Ohhh and you are so not a bad mother!

We are here to listen to you. Did you get on some meds?
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I looked into the MOPS groups and theres nothing like that around here. He's bored with every toy he owns. he gets bored within 10 minutes. He's driving me up the wall. I don't know what to do. He's crawling around the room and crying his eyes out right now and I don't even know how to make him happy.
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Can you go for a walk? Take him outside?
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It's raining otherwise I would. it's always raining.
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First, you are not a bad mother.

Second, he loves you. He's at that age where he wants to be alone sometimes. Independant.

This is what we do with Kieran, who is doing some of the same things. They are mostly simply common sense, but at these moments your common sense doesn't kick in.

1. When he gets into something he shouldn't, distract him with something he can have. We have a cabinet full of cans that we show him when he gets under the sink. He has his own controler for when he gets ours.

2. Do like Jannie said and put away some of his toys and rotate them every week or so. We do that as well. I have also kept our bathroom door closed and cleaned off the bottom shelf of the nightstand and filled it with his toys and things of ours he can play with.
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You are NOT a bad mother! I'll bet you anything too once it stops raining and you can get him outside things will get a LOT better. I went through the same thing with Nicole, she was bored with being inside all the time, but once the weather was good and we could go to the park it was tons better.

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Thanks everyone. I don't know what it is about this time of the month. It seems like everything goes wrong when I'm PMSing and I'm always crying,emotional and stressed about every little thing! Before I had Isaiah I never got like that. I didn't even PMS at all. IS this normal? It's just so weird for me. If I got on meds I wouldn't know how or where to start with them. I'm not depressed all of the time just when it's time to PMS. It's driving me nuts! I get so hopeless and sad. It effects my whole life.
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i have only recently started having emotional pms. for me it always feels better once i know why i am feeling so moody and hopeless. it is just hormones... have a good cry and know that you will feel better in a couple of days.

for me it is like a lightbulb, AF arrives and i go ahhhhhh that is why i have been so mean, and i instantly feel better.
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I think the older I get the more I PMS. Trying talking to your OBGYN about options to help out while or before AF arrives. Do you take birth control? If you do that could make things worse. I have heard there are things that help with PMS stuff that they sell OTC.
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You are not a bad mother. I'm sorry things aren't going well for you.
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yes, hun, pms can change after giving birth. mine did several times.
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give him a pot and a spoon that'll entertain him.

I would personally get some baby gates and just make one babyproofed area that he can't destroy anything in.
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