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#1 of 6 Old 11-15-2009, 10:08 PM - Thead Starter
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So in a few weeks we'll have our first child, a baby girl. I'll be working part-time, about 3 days a week, for the first 6 months in 2010. In order to avoid daycare for those 3 days, the mother-in-law offered to watch the baby one of those days, and my parents the other two days.

Is it normal to be paranoid for the first child? My parents live 30 minutes from us, and I told them we would like them to watch the baby here at our house. It would be about 6 to 7 hours each day for those two days, but only for a few months. We're just not comfortable with the baby being in the car for that long, not to mention that they have two smaller dogs that aren't well-trained, they like to jump around all over the place and get all crazy.

Our doctor and pediatrician are only a few minutes from our house. The mother-in-law thinks it's perfectly normal to be paranoid at first, and she's fine with spending the day at our house. But after I told my parents that we want them to stay here, they said they won't watch her. They'll only watch her if they can take her back to their house.

So, are we being paranoid? Or out-of-line? Asking too much? We just don't really like the idea of the baby leaving the house that much for the first few months, not at least until she gets older and we get more comfortable as parents.

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I don't think it's paranoid. I think your parents are just thinking of the convenience of having her at their house and maybe they don't feel comfortable spending that much time in in your home when you are not there. I know I feel weird spending a lot of time in someone else's house when they are not there. The dogs can always be penned up or put in another room if necessary. They may take right to her. Before I wrote off free excellent babysitting, I would consider a compromise.Good luck in whatever you decide to do! And welcome to Baby U!

 
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It is totally normal to be paranoid with your first child....even your second....

I agree with Lenora too.....some people are just not that comfortable spending that much time at someones house when they are not there.,....and they are used to the routine of being at their house.....
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ALL first time parents are paranoid. Go with what makes you most comfortable. If it really bothers you that much, then dont' do it. Or maybe try it for a week or so and see what happens. You may find that after a week or 2 it doesn't bother you as much as you thought it would. Most of all, follow your instincts. If they are telling you no, then no is the answer. If you are a wreck, the baby will pick up on that and you will just worry all day. Perfectly normal to to be uberparanoid with your kids, particular when are tiny and its your first one. Just makes you normal, so dont' sweat it.

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My mom watched my daughter from infancy. She set up a nursery and everything. I figured that my mom raised me, and I turned out okay. It's normal to be paranoid, maybe there is a way to compromise. One day at their house, and one day at yours.
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Personally, as a SAHM, I've never had to pay for day care, but from the ladies here, I understand it can be costly and it's hard finding a reliable, trustworthy person with openings. I don't know if money is a problem or not. It just seems like daycare can easily eat up a paycheck until it's almost not worth it to work. Before, I signed away free, reliable and trustworthy, I would consider a compromise.

 
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