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#1 of 7 Old 01-16-2003, 12:42 PM - Thead Starter
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I’m a first time mom and my son is almost 14 months old. He’s the love of my life and we have a great time together. He has never had separation anxiety. Once or twice he was a little clingy and fussy when I dropped him off at daycare - but this was right after the long holidays and it was only for one day - then he was back to normal. The minute we walk into daycare, he goes right over to the other kids and toys and never looks back. When I say bye-bye, he looks up, waves, blow’s me a kiss, says bye-bye and goes right back to playing.
I realize that most mom’s are thinking “how lucky”. (My sister is one of them.)

My “issue” though is everything I’ve read about separation anxiety says “It’s a good thing. It means you have bonded with your child.” So… what does that mean for me? Everyone at daycare laughs at me because I get “bummed” when he “doesn’t care” that I leave. I guess I was under the impression that separation anxiety is a stage that all children go though and I was trying to prepare myself for it, then it never happened.
I’m just curious what others have to say and think about this.
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Hi! I know it feels awful for you, but it is a good thing. I have 3 kids, 2 of which had SEVERE sep. anxiety. I couldn't run to the bathroom at my parents' house without Kevin screaming bloody murder! But Aaron was totally different! When I would go anywhere, he went on playing like it didn't matter if I ever came back! So I guess it just depends on the child. And I know that I have bonded with Aaron. So I think ya'll are fine, it's just different personalities. Hope I helped!
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Although I also think that you are lucky to not be going through sep. anxiety, maybe he just hasn't gotten to that stage yet.
At the nursery where I work we have a little girl who will be 2 next month. For the first 5 months I worked there she was the perfect drop off. Didn't cry, just waved bye to her mother. But for the past 3 weeks she has thrown a fit when her mom tries to leave.

Kids all have different personalities and you should count yourself lucky that you have such a happy and well adjusted child. I know that wasn't what you wanted to hear. sorry.

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Yes, most children do go thru separation anxiety, but not all. It just means that your son is comfortable and feels safe and secure where he is. that is not sya he won't go thru it later. My son didn't go thru it until he was almost 2. My DD, however, has benn going thru it for almost 8 months!

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Thank you all for your response's. They are comforting me and making me feel better!

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Hey he jus tmay not have hit that stage yet...or he may never go through it...

My dd has SEVERE sep. anxiety...if I leave the room to go to the bathroom she has to come wtih me...drives me She is getting better though....I can tell her mommy is goin gto warm up our school bus and i will be back inside in a minute.....(usually while Berenstain Bears are on--or depending on how cold it is...Blues Clues)and she actually waves at me...

I do wish she never hit this stage though...it makes it hard fo rme or dh to go out...he is a smoker and smokes outside...she spazzes when he goes out....or depending on ehr mood....if dh goes to the bathroom...or somedays even if our room mate goes out or something.....
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I agree with what everyone else has said. I think he just feels safe at hi daycare. It's not that he doesn't care about you, he knows it is playtime for him and mom will be back later to get him.
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