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#1 of 9 Old 09-26-2009, 09:04 AM - Thead Starter
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I don't seem to. There is a huge lack in communication. The older kids father will give information to Haley about when he'll be here (or not) and I won't hear anything (or even know they talked) until the last second. I've also picked up on a few things recently and realize that he bad mouths me (to some extent) to Haley. I asked Haley to do something the other day and the response I got was "Daddy is right, you are lazy".
There was also a day this summer that I was told "Daddy and I think that you should be responsible for the driving once in a while." That was after she was told that he didn't have the money to come pick them up for the weekend. I get NO child support and only 2 weekends a month (when it happens on sched ... it's been about once a month all summer) where he has the kids. I'm not taking on any more responsibility ... sorry. I of course didn't say that to her although I wanted to.
It's getting to the point that I resent him so much I can't stand to be on the phone with him. It's sad because there was a time when I thought we got along great and were on the same page with the kids.

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Oh yeah I am in the same situation as most of you know. My ex is a dink and he only takes them bc its court ordered. In fact he is getting remarried and doesnt have them in the wedding yet hers are and he doesnt want them there the whole time. I have to go pick them up half way through the reception. He is a father not a dady and he hates me and takes it out on the kids. I am very fortunate that they see all that and see how he is and they know the reeal deal.

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We were married for 12 years, I like to think we do. Jaedyn's father, no way and I don't think he will ever come around. He's told me that I ruined his life, LOL.
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Ugh, just when I think that John and I are getting along he shows his true colors again and is a total dip$hit. We play nice around the children but his parents badmouth Jim and I (MIL worked with Jim).
My current rant against my ex is that he is COURT ORDERED to pay $300 towards bts costs (supplies, shoes, clothes etc) and he has bought absolutely NOTHING. He also owes the school program daycare thing over $300 and of course he hasn't paid it. He is also supposed to take the kids on Thurs nights but during the school year he doesn't come. Can't afford the gas money so he says but he can afford to buy himself new shoes, clothes, go to football games etc etc. :rolleyes2: So, he sees the kids 4 days out of the month. I feel sorry for the children, they get their feelings hurt but like Becky said-they see his true colors and at least Jim is a wonderful 'fake daddy' as Payton lovingly calls him.
there is a lot more pertaining to his girlfriend's 3 kids that he says he is responsible for (whatever) but he won't take **** responsiblility for his own children. Can you tell it gets my goat?
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Guys like Jim (and other "Step" parents) are a true blessing. I know. My dada is really my stepdad, but you's never know by the way he treats us. I'm his and anyone who questions it gets an earful! LOL! Hang on to him, Krista!

I don[t have any kids with my ex. I think he is a great guy - he thinks I am OK. Oh well. I've met very few who were mature enough to get along, even if just for the kids sake. (I'm talking about the guys, not the ladies). For some reason, men seem to think divorce/splitting up gives them the right to act like a$$holes!

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Nope not at all!
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I have a better realtionship with my Ex then I did when we were married. I was trying to find how to delet this account, since I am not on this site anymore. Saw this question and thought I answer it. Alisha is 22 in October and the only baby around here is my dog Bruno, LOL. Hope you are all well and doing good. If you could please let me know how I delete my account from Baby University I would appreciate it. Unless you ask me to work again. I miss those days and I could use them again at this time. Take care. Love you all, and you know who I am talking about.

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Annie, I am the only one here anymore and they made me the administrator without asking or telling me.  I have no idea how to share this responsibility because I really know zero about computer programming.  I would love for you to stick around and I would love to share my sight spam and thread deleting powers.  We don't even get much spam anymore.  How are you doing?  I have missed you!
 

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