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#1 of 23 Old 06-13-2005, 04:30 PM - Thead Starter
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I have to take Jessi to the dentist on Wednesday to have a cavity filled. If you guys remember back to last fall, she had a real trauma with the last dentist who actually held her down to numb her, told her to quit being a baby, etc.

Anyway, she's been complaining about her tooth hurting and I've not known what to do. Today, she asked if she could go to Dr. Byrd, who was the first dentist she ever dealt with. He filled a tooth, and she never even realized he had numbed her.

She asked me if he used shots, and I responded with "Did you feel him use a shot?" She said no, so I told her he must not. Hate lying to the kid, but I know I won't even get her in the door if I tell her the truth.

Any ideas? Is there anything I can do to calm her down? They won't prescribe anything -- says if it gets to that point, they'll have to refer her to a pediatric dentist. I'm not against that, but most around here require payment up front, then they let insurance reimburse you. That can get quite expensive!
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I don't know what to tell you that you wouldn't already know like to use children's tylenol.

 
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Cant help - the girls go to pedatric dentists.
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Maybe see if she can go in early to get use to the office or even go the day before so that she can be familiar with it and the staff without having anything done and then she'll have a positive experience there and not be so nervous and scared when she goes to have the cavity filled?

I really don't know what else to tell you because Alexander is the same way. He had a cavity and because of his experience at our reglar dentist, we took him to a pediatric dentist who was wonderful! He did require payment up front but we put it on our credit card and filed with insurance that day so that we got payment from them by the time we got the credit card bill. Maybe you could do that if you need to go to a pediatric dentist?
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Are you volunteering to let me put it on YOUR credit card Lisa? Seriously, good idea, but I don't have a credit card anymore.
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So is she going to Dr. Byrd? I would lie. It would be less tramitic on her. Call them ahead of time and let them know the situation. Numb her real good then do the shot with out her seeing. Ear phones with a CD on so she can't hear the drilling. She favorite stuff anim al or what ever she can hang on to for support!

Will you be in the room or will they make you stay outside. She could be more dramitic with you in the room.
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I wish I had an answer for you hon
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I'm going to let her go back by herself unless she insists. Last time she went to Dr. Byrd, I wasn't with her and she was in and out in less than 20 minutes. I talked to his assistant today and explained the situation and she says she'll talk to Dr. Byrd tomorrow and ask him if he has any advice. I told her that I sort of fudged the whole "does he use a needle" and she said she understood. So at least they are forewarned.

The sad thing ... I have two teeth that are going to rot out of my head if I don't get my butt in there, but I'm as bad as she is. I joke with my dermatologist about it because I actually look forward to going in there and getting moles shaved off, but I'm terrified to go get a tooth fixed that is killing me.

Oh, and for the record, I'm very careful what I say around her as far as my fear goes. The poor kid doesn't need any added stress!
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I am right there with you... I need a dentist so bad and it is not happening. I am white knuckeled from start to finish.

I would rather go through child birth again!
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My niece really freaked out and they had to hold her down and she ended up with bruising on her face!

She ended up going to a pediatric dentist (Dr. Pink) and she did much better with him.

My niece was 5 when she had her cavities filled.
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Darien had two cavities filled last year, but he didn't have to have shots and he went to my dentist. (He did great) I'm afraid he's instore for a lot of dental work. Looks like he's going to have my bad teeth. (I started getting fillings at 4)
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Didn't know you didn't have any, Dawn! I also remembered that the pediatric dentist gave Alexander laughing gas to help him relax. Does Dr. Byrd have anything like that that he could use on Jessica? Alexander was awake for it all but didn't have a care about what they were doing. Even the shot didn't bother him.
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Find out if they have the topical numbing stuff to use on the gums before they do the shot. The dentist we use said if the boys would require actual dental work they would send home a packet of topical numbing gel. It has to be put on before hand....then they do the shot but the kid can't feel it. That and some good tunes to listen to while they do it should help put her at ease. If they don't have that maybe getting a tube of oragel and putting on right as she goes in would help. With the boys I couldn't risk lying because if they saw the needle they would freak and never trust me again. I would simply have to explain to them exactly what they were going to do, and that they were going to put a special numbing medicine(the topical lidacaine or oragel) on first so they didn't feel it. I might even let them have the oragel to do themselves to make them feel a little more control over the situation. Coarse that is just me and my kids, because I know if I lied and it hurt I would never get them back in there. It sucks that she had suck a bad experiance. It's one of the reasons my kids do NOT go back by themselves, I too hate the dentist because I had a bad experiance(cavity filled before I got numb) and I never go unless I'm in agony. Good luck, I hope it goes smoothly for you!
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My dentist always puts that on a few minutes before giving a shot. Even the pediatric dentist put it on Alexander before his shot so hopefully Dr. Byrd will too.
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Yes, they do the numbing gel and the laughing gas. I talked to the assistant a few minutes ago and she has made him aware of her fears and we'll just take it one step at a time. I'm going to make sure she takes her cd player and headphones, and they also have TV in the rooms. Cross your fingers!
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I hope the cavity filling goes well. The headphones helped me tremendously when I had my little removal last week.

 
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How did it go???
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Thanks for remembering! Well .. she did "OK", all things considered.

They gassed her up pretty good, but the second they put the topical numbing gel in her mouth, she started freaking out. Said it burned her.

At some point, they made a deal with her that they wouldn't give her a shot in her gum. I guess they know what they are doing, but come on folks! So, since the cavity had eaten down to the root, they told her they'd just put it directly in the tooth.

This was about the time I heard her screaming out in the waiting room. I don't quite understand whether it was just the novocaine hitting the nerve that hurt, or if he had to actually inject into the nerve. Probably don't want to know either!

But let me just say they were MUCH nicer than the other dentist. There was no yelling at her and 3 or 4 of the office gals went in to talk to her and calm her down. Once that was over with, all was fine, until the very end when they had to put a band around her tooth. It pinched her gum since her gum wasn't numb, but was only for a second.

She and I had a long talk about how yes, the shot in the gum would have hurt, but only for a few seconds. That is such an insignifcant amount of time out of her life. We talked about all the little sick boys and girls that have to have shots every day or have to be hooked up to IV's and machines. I tried convincing her if that was the worst pain she ever felt, she'll have a good life.

Remind me that I DON'T want to be in the room with her when she gives birth!

Anyway .. the good news is that it was the only cavity she had. Surprising since the last dentist tried telling us that she had 5 that needed to be taken care of! Why am I surprised??? Same guy wanted to sell DH a bridge (which requires 2 crowns) for a rear molar that's been missing for 20 years! He also claimed Jessi was "tongue tied" and wanted to clip her tongue. HELLLO! I wonder how all those speech specialists and previous dentists missed that one???? MONEY GRUBBER! Hey .. maybe I really don't need 5 crowns! Woohoo! I think I'll book me an appointment!

She goes back next week for a cleaning and probably some sort of sealant. That should go better, I hope! Thanks for all the advice!
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sounds like it wasn't exactly smooth but she is ok, and willing to go for her cleaning eh?
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I say lie to her, Dawn. You are not lying to deceive her for selfish or malicious reasons. You are lying to protect her and so that she will get her tooth taken care of. JMHO.

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Guess I should have read the whole thread before posting, huh?? me!

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I know she already went...but the difference between pediatric dentists and regular dentists is HUGE! What they suggested for Gavin was to give him something that would make him sleepy like benedryl about an hour or so before coming in. I gave him Nyquil and he was out cold the both times.
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OOOHHH Meagan, thanks for sharing that. I might try that with Emily if she is scared of her dentist. We have a pediatric dentist that we will use, but we have not taken her yet. I will try it first and see how she does, but that is good to know.

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