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#1 of 3 Old 04-21-2010, 12:54 AM - Thead Starter
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I've been a step parent for between 2-3 years now.

I have trouble feeling the connection with them that their father feels. We have them 50% of the week, and they are with their mother the rest of the week.

Much of the time, we're pretty happy.

Sometimes, though, often times,...
My mood will flip a switch, and overall, I will feel deflated, withdrawn, detached, emotionless, uninterested. It's nothing that they or my husband is doing wrong - They all treat me like part of the family. They love me. The children are still young; 4 and 8.

I feel like my deeply intense yearning for a child with my husband affects my ability to enjoy my time with my stepchildren. My patience is, at times, minimal. I am often broody.

We are at the very early phases of trying to conceive.

I'm certain they notice when I'm in my "withdrawn" mood.

I feel so selfish.

I know my post is choppy, and perhaps, hard to decipher since I steered away from going into detail. I apologize.

Has anyone else ever felt this way?
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These feelings are quite normal. However, they sound like they could turn into depression or potentially harm your relationships with your dh and his kids, I would consider working these feelings out with a counselor before they get any worse.

 
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