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#1 of 2 Old 05-08-2004, 10:37 AM - Thead Starter
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Carl and I married Christmas Day, the children standing next to us while we exchanged vows. They quickly began telling anyone who would listen, "We got married." I suppose "we" did. Then shortly after the wedding, James and I cleared the mommy issue up once and for all.

It was his fourth birthday, and I had taken the children to the grocery store to get a few things for the party. James, excited about his birthday, was talking a mile a minute. Exactly what he was talking about, I doubt I'll ever remember, because James had said one word that had immediately caught my attention, and I didn't hear anything else he had to say. When James realized what he had said he looked up at me. "I called you Mommy," he giggled.

"Yes, I know." I was trying to behave as if nothing out the ordinary had just happened.

"I'm sorry." James twisted his mouth a bit.

"You don't have to be sorry," I explained. "I don't mind if you call me Mommy."

"Are you my mommy, too?" Why couldn't he just once ask an easy question?

"I'm like a mommy, but you have your mother, and she is your mommy. As I told you before, I am whatever you want me to be."
"Okay, Mommy," James said, smiling at me. He was telling me what he wanted.

Recently, James came home from school with a drawing he'd done. "Look what I made for you, Mommy. It's our family. This one is you."

As I looked at the paper he handed me, I felt the tears begin to form in my eyes. He had drawn four red stick figures, holding hands and smiling. James was telling me in his own wonderful way that I am not raising someone else's children - I am raising my children.
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Have there been any major problems since? My stepdaughter used to love to call me mommy, but her mother got so angry with her and us that it caused some big issues. I now insist she calls me by my name but that I am "hers". This seems to have helped and I think she still feels special. I envy your situation, what a lovely little guy!
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