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#1 of 8 Old 03-14-2001, 11:30 AM - Thead Starter
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Well, yesterday my mother, my sister, and I went to look at my wedding dress. Well, I get to Jamie's house to pick up Alexis and my FMIL and mom are talking and they start talking about my dress. Well, my FMIL mentioned that she hoped that I would take her to see it soon. No problem..I had planned on it. Well, then last night I was talking to my FMIL and told her I had thought about inviting her to see the dress today but that I had went to bed EARLY the night before and hadn't gotten the chance. She sounded like she was a little upset with me. She said that all her friends had the FMIL there or went everywhere to pick out the wedding stuff with the bride. She made me feel awful. I did not mean to upset her. Just did not think about it. Anyways...I just had to get that off my chest.
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Diana,

Dont' worry about it. My step mother in law never saw my dress until the day I got married which I was happy about. Why does everyone need to see the dress before we get married...so they can tell everyone about it would be my guess. The only people who saw it were my bridesmaids, my mom and my SIL. I liked it that way. That way I knew there were still going to be people who were surprised at the wedding when they saw it.

You have the right to chose who sees your dress and when they see it. Just remember this is going to be for YOUR day and it should not matter what anyone else wants. You have the choice to decide who sees it.

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Thanks Wendy..That was what I needed to hear.
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When I went to pick out my dress I just took my mom and maid of honor. I really did not include Richs mom in any of the weddding plans because she is the type of person who wants stuff her way. She wasn't paying for the wedding so every decision was up to Rich and I. She even was picking out my invitations and wanted me to use the one she picked.
So she did not see my dress until the day of the wedding which was fine.
I wouldn't worry about it at all, you already explained why you didn't go that day so she should accept your reason,and take her another day that is convenient for you.
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Don't sweat it. People get weird around weddings, expecially moms. The only thing that is important is that you and your fiance are satisfied with the wedding plans. Don't try to please everyone, you will wear yourself out. Make it exaclty how you want it. Few people will remember your wedding day a week after the event. You will remember it for the rest of your life. Make it memorable for you and your fiance.
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Everyone's Right, Don't sweat it! It's not like you did it to be mean. Just take her another day since it bothered her so much.
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Thanks guys!! It is hard getting used to having a (F)MIL. And her being the g'ma of my little girl. A lot of it is b/c she has never had a girl..which is understandable.
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She may simply be feeling a bit left out... if it is possible maybe you could let her go with FH to get fitted for his tux? Or perhaps ask her to do some small stuff to help organize and get ready for the big day? (like help with seating for reception if it is going to be sit-down type, etc...)
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