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#1 of 26 Old 03-17-2002, 05:45 PM - Thead Starter
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Do you get along well with your inlaws? Does dh/so get along with his?


I can't stand my dh's mother. She's a "fruitcake" I don't agree with the way she raises Don's little sister (now 16) All she does is put a roof over her head and keeps minum food in the fridge. She's done that for her whole life. His sister was basically raised by Don and her older sister. His mom is too busy dating and having multiple boyfriends over at the house. She only lost her husband of 28yrs three years ago. I don't know what her deal is. The house is filthy, she doesn't clean, cook or anything!!!

Dh doesn't get along well with my mom. When we lived at my moms they got in a pretty big fight. A lot of words thrown back and forth. Dh holds grudges and will never like her again. I think that what happened with Kaylin brought them closer but it will never be the way I would like it to be.
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#2 of 26 Old 03-17-2002, 07:04 PM
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yes I do, I mean we are not best friends, but we get along well.
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I get along with the inlaws and vice versa. More now that we have a daughter.
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Um, no way. Billy's parents stopped talking to us when the boys were 5 months old. (really LONG story) The really uncomfortable part is that they live 3 blocks away, and I am lucky enough to run into them every couple of months. Of course DH NEVER has to see them! So I walk right past them and do whatever I was there to do and they usually take off. It never ceases to amaze me that they can have 3 grandkids (one that they have never seen) just 3 blocks away and leave it that way. Now my folks and DH are great (until my mom pushes things, you know moms! Luckily, they live in town too, so the kids have grandparents that they know and love!


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I get along great with my one sister in law Judy. The other two sister in laws i can kinda do without (dh feels the same way). His mom is senile, and I do get along with her....but she can be very difficult.

Jerry gets alogn great with everyone in my family, and they all love him to pieces.
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I get along with mine.
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I get along GREAT with my in laws. They are a second set of parents for me! I love them!
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My in-laws tolerate me, i think MIL likes me but is too much of a yes dear type to go against FIL who does not. Altho just lately he has been IMing me and being really polite, almost sociable, absence does make the heart grow fonder LOL ( he has been civil since the kids were born, DH told him play nice or you don't see me and the kids either)

DH and my brother don't talk at all - don't know if my brother has figured it out yet as DH was very polite about it (tell him I'm sorry I can't come to his wedding, tell him we couldn't get a babysitter kind of thing), Brother did the dirty one to many times, don't blame DH one bit.

My Mum, can't make up her mind LOL

1st: loved him b/c he married her solo mother daughter and made me 'respectable'
2nd: Hated him b/c him didn't change from the builder I married into a 'suit' earning $50K a year
3rd:decided to tolerate him b/c after 13 years he is still here and she knows if she tried to make me choose he would win without a second thought

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I get along wonderfully with my FIL and okay with my MIL.
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a big fat nope! lol
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Gee Josie why not??

Considering how nice they are to you and all. Letting you stay at there place until you get on your feet.

Oh wait that's so they can get up on your feet, silly me
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No, my in-laws do not like me at all. I really believe that they think I got pregnant on purpose. Last time I checked, it takes two, but that is what they believe. They are fairly nice to me when I see them, but it is very clear how they feel about me. My sister-in-law pretty much hates my guts. For what I do not know, I have never been anything but nice to her.
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My MIL is bossy and distant. I could like her a lot better if she weren't those two things. My FIL has post traumatic stress from Vietnam and is nutty as a fruitcake sometimes. At other times, he is very nice. He's helped us out a lot. I like him when he's alright and feel concerned for him when he is not.

My dh likes my mom. For some reason, she (as her mother before) has the uncanny gift of buying things for him that he absolutely loves. Even I can't do that. I don't know how she does it, but I hope it's genetic.
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I did not think we would but we do now! I get along with Den's mom and step dad wonderfully and Den's dad and step mom is a lot better than it used to be! We talk to each other on the computer and on the phone. I've gone shopping with Den's step mom and stuff like that. They are nice people!
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Oh, Den gets along with my parents very well! They are just like another set of parents to him! They have done everything and anything to helo Denny!!
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I get along really well with my in-laws if you mean his Mom, Dad, brother etc... His dad aggravates me, but just like he does everyone else...

However for the longest time I didn't get along with his Grandma or his cousins... For the first 4 years we were married, his cousin was constantly telling his Grandmother lies about me.. Which she of course believed.. That all changed after Jimmy went in the Army. SHe finally realized that all the lies, were in fact lies...

We get along okay now, but we won't ever be close... To much hurt there..
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DH is an only child, so I don't have any SIL's or BIL's there. I love my MIL and FIL. When we were dating, I was a lot closer to his parents than I was to my own. Once we got married, though, I realized how much my inlaws really relied on DH, and how much his dad took for granted that he was going to be at his beckoned call 24/7. NOT. So, there are some times I'd like to beat him over the head, but for the most part, they're OK.
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Well, for a few years there it was touch and go. They made it clear in little ways that they were not pleased with Rick's choice. Rare were the occasions that anyone was downright rude to me. They tend to talk about you when you are not there. So things always get back to me. (They should learn not to talk in front of my kids ). We get along much better now. They know I won't put up with anything, so they don't dish anything out.

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MIL: I never knew her. She died 8 months before I met Steve.
FIL: We had a pretty good relationship while he was living.

My bil and sil's: I get along great with all of them!

Steve gets along really good with my siblings and my parents.
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Please!!!! Don't get me started!
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I am with Roxanna!!!


Though my parents simply adore Jason!
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I thought about this a little more and I guess I do have a good relationship with my in-laws ... If you call this a good relationship ... getting a second mortgage to pay for a hit out on them and praying everyday for it to be successful!!! JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!!
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Since I do not own a home, I wonder if I could do that with a kidney???? Of course--kidding also!!
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That's too funny Jennifer!
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I don't get along with my mohter-in-law. She doesn't think that I am good enough for her son. But the rest of the family I get along with just fine.
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I get along with my MIL as well as you can with a person who is bossy yet aloof and distant at the same time. Everytime I talk to her, I feel like she isn't really listening to me and her mind is somewhere else that I am just annoying her or filling empty air space. My dh complains about the same thing with his mother.

My FIL has a lot of mental problems. When he is doing well, he is great. Everything you could want in a FIL and a Dad, but when he is not we don't hear from him at all. Dh has mixed feelings about his dad.

My DH likes my mother. She gives him presents he likes and is nice to him, so he likes her. Even I don't talk to my dad. I certainlly don't expect him too.
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