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03-05-2001 03:34 PM
Aiyanna mom You know that some hospitals give out carseats. And If you go to public Aid you dont have to get on it but you can tell them that you are having a hard time and can they help you find the things you need for your baby. They will give you Vouchers for the things that you need and you dont have to be on Public AID. If you let me know some of the things that you dont have I can see what I can do.

03-02-2001 04:53 PM
Tracey Thanks for the info i have more or less everything now
03-01-2001 07:07 PM
India You can get a lot of inexpensive stuff for great prices. You can also check with your local Salvation Army. They provide things that you need to live. They don't need a whole lot when they are little. It's when they get bigger that they need more things. It will get better.
02-26-2001 03:55 PM
Diana I am 18 and it was hard for me at first. I luckily had a loving family and future family in laws who bought a lot of stuff for me. One thing though is that all the furniture I was able to have or fit in my room was a changing table and bed. And everyone is right...babies do not care about material things..they love you and your attention the most. If there is anything you really need let me know and I will try and help.
02-26-2001 03:08 PM
Robyn I agree with all of the other ladies! Babies don't need material possessions! Especially at first! All they need is Mommy, Daddy, something to eat, and a way to keep warm!!

I know that WIC programs give you formula and lots of other free foods! Which I'm on, and it is great! Formula i s soo expensive! They also have a program that in the state of Ohio I know that before you leave the hospital that they ask you if you have a car seat, and if not, the state provides you with a brand new one!

What exactly do you need that is a necessity, i will try and help??

[Edited by Robyn on 02-26-2001 at 02:14 PM]
02-26-2001 02:06 PM
Christina Hi Tracey,
The others are right, the only thing you gotta have is a car seat. Remember, many families use the Family Bed rather than a crib. Just keep safety in mind and protect then babe from accidentally being rolled over on or falling off with tightly rolled towels or blankets (not loose, don't want them burying their face in the material). Or trying making your own Moses basket out of a large clothes basket or other basket. Just remember to keep the materials as tight as you can. And I shop at Goodwill. Some great clothes - most less than $1 each.

But most of all, remember that Americans are raised in this gotta have it societal attitude. Other people in other places in other times in history have not had all the niceties we'd like to have. Those babies were all raised just fine (you may have even been one of those babies; I know I was). The only things babies need are food, sleep and other expressions of love. YOU are all your baby will need. Some babies aren't as fortunate to have a loving mother as yours will. Good luck and God's blessings and comfort.
02-18-2001 03:20 PM
Wendy My husband and I were in your shoes not to long ago. We were fine when it was just the 2 of us and we were not lacking in anything we needed at all but when you throw a baby into the mix things get a little different. Luckily all of Christian's grandparents got him a lot of stuff. He is the first grandchild for all 3 sets of grandparents so he gets spoiled.

Right now there is so much you don't really need. Like Dawn said you don't need a changing table. You won't need a high chair right now. That won't come for a while. Christian is 7 months old and we hardly use his high chair. He sits in his infant seat but that is getting small now or he sits in his rocker/bouncy chair when we feed him. Just worry about a few outfits...they grow so fast you won't want to get a lot of clothes right away. Get some diapers. If your friends and family ask what you need don't be afraid to tell them. If they did not want to help you, they would not ask you what you need.

For some of this stuff you can even try the thrift stores. Most people who don't want to bother with having a yard sale give their stuff to thrift stores and a lot of it is brand new. If we don't have a yard sale that is what we will probably do with Christian's stuff after we have another baby of course.

I agree the only thing you will need is a car seat which the nurses will ask you to bring that to the hospital to be sure that you really do have one. And I have heard that the drivers place will help you get one if you need one. But local churches do have stuff. I give stuff to one of our churches because it has a thrift store in it. People donate brand new stuff to those places because they know it is strictly for people who need it. My parents have donated tons of new things to churches.

Just a few suggestions. Hit the yard sales, thrift stores and those kinds of places. You will be surprised what you will find

02-18-2001 11:36 AM
Dawn Hi Tracey -

Alot of people get by without the baby furniture. I've never had a changing table at all. I bought the basinett second hand from a consignment shop and it lasted through 2 babies and is still in great shape. I'll probably sell it back to the consignment shop when I start cleaning out all the old baby stuff.

You can do the same with a crib, or even hit a yard sale when they start up this spring. It's amazing how inexpensively folks sell good stuff just to get rid of it. Other than a place to sleep, your baby doesn't really need any "furniture".

Also, call around to the local agencies in your area. Start with Social Services (you don't have to tell them who you are) and explain that you are having trouble financially. They can recommend places to call for help.

I helped a local woman a while back who took in her grandchildren when their mother was having problems. The woman didn't have any baby stuff nor the finances to purchase them. We found several agencies that donated car seats, a crib, toys, clothes, food & formula for her.

Some of the programs were handled through local churches, other through a "Smart Start" or similar government program. There is help out there, you just have to do some research.

And as Cleopatra said, they can't/won't stop you from bringing your baby home as long as you have a carseat for the ride home. That is the only requirement. If you don't have any luck finding one, try the Dept of Transportation or the Highway Patrol -- they can get you in touch with someone that will give you or sell you a carseat at a very reasonable price.
02-18-2001 03:47 AM
Tara Tracey,

After reading your post I felt like I wanted to help you. I bought something you can use for your baby. I hope you don't mind. Please email me and tell me where I can ship it. Just click on the mail sign at the bottom of this post.

02-18-2001 02:26 AM
Tara Hi,
I had a baby very young and all I had was a cradle, clothes, bottles, and sheets and blankets, oh and a car seat. Don't feel bad the rest will come in time. Ask everyone you can to help you. Usually DMV will help you get a carseat if you can prove you can't afford one. Your Midwife can't stop you from taking YOUR baby home. The only thing is you have to have a car seat because it's law. She can't stop you just because you don't have baby furniture. Hang in there God knows your needs.
02-17-2001 08:22 PM
Tracey Hi you may of seen some of my other messages on the boards but this one is completly different
i'm 17 if u don't already know expecting my first baby and we (my partner and i) seem 2 be struggling with buying things we already have clothes/ bath set / bottles / dummys / cot blankets / sheets but can't afford things like furniture i feel really upset and worried my midwife may not let us bring the baby home. any body eles having same problem or had same problem.

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